Both of my parents are dead. My father died about 7 years ago and about 2 weeks later I found my mother dead. They had been divorced for 45 years. Growing up I never had a relationship with my dad. When I was in my twenties my step mother died and my dad took me to a bar to get drunk. On the way home he was arrested for DUI. The next morning when he got out of jail he tried to sleep with me. I hate my dad. There’s other things but I don’t want to go into them.
My mother worked hard to raise 4 kids on her own. She never complained. She was a great mom even though she was emotionally absent who could blame her with all the work she had to do. As a teen with undiagnosed mental health issues I had problems with my mother and blamed her parenting for my difficulties. It took many years to repair our relationship when I got older. In the long run I feel better prepared to handle life because of having an intelligent and strong role model for a mother . My mother had her flaws but I miss her every single day.
Tell me about your parents. Do you think the way you were raised impacts your mental health today? How are your relationships now?