My dad is behaving like an a-hole today

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He just woke up mad. I called him, and he told me if I’m not ashamed of calling him “daddy” everytime. Ofc he is very old and he called his dad father back in the day.

Then, I’m smoking a cig and he passes by and tells me: “are you smoking less, aren’t you?” knowing perfectly well that I allways smoke more or less the same.

He’s usually very chill, but today he’s on this weird passive aggressive behaviour.
Now he acts like nothing happened.

Idk what to do, I’m angry at him about the daddy part. For some reason it got me.

Just looked for some places to live alone in the same city.

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Lol i hear that. I live w my father. It was super fun when he went manic and dated a chick my age a couple years back (being sarcastic). I call my dad Father btw and it pisses him off haha

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It’s hard living with parents sometimes.

I live with my mom— it’s just the two of us and my dog.

Some days it’s nothing but nagging and negativity, other days it’s chill.

I’ve also been down that road of looking for a a new place. But then logic kicks in.

Maybe your dad’s just having a bad day and taking it out on you unfortunately. It does happen.

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@Schztuna I just want a bit of respect. I’m a grown ass man now, he ain’t gonna say sorry or apologize. I know him. He just want me to forgive him like nothing happened and move on. And that ■■■■ got me this time.

Wow damm, what did you think/do at the time?

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I was 100 lb overweight hearing voices had been living alone for 6 years it was a little bit hard on my ego but for the most part I was just disgusted to be completely honest I found the whole thing to be absurd I didn’t like what she was doing because she was kind of gold digging and I didn’t like what he was doing because he was going for the nookie and at his age I find it to be a little bit deplorable.
my father calls me bro all the time he’s bizarre

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I feel you. It’s hard being an adult yet still being treated like a kid on some levels.

We are lucky in that our parents give us a place to live, but it’s difficult at times to have to contend with that sort of treatment.

I dunno what makes parents do stuff like that, but it’s a shitty feeling when the harsh words come out and you haven’t done anything to merit it.

Hang in there, maybe give some distance between you and your dad, and cool off a bit. Nothing good comes from staying angry.

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The whole thing is pretty complicated you have to acknowledge that being an adult and living with your parent has a negative psychological effect

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Oh for sure.

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Thanks @Schztuna @FreeLunch

I could perfectly afford living alone for a while. But my father is old and needs someone near.

I’m just thinking if this is because I don’t care or want to be here anymore, or just a way to punish him.

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You know, going from independence to living at home is a fall from grace in many respects.

I don’t take my mom’s home for granted, but it is a contentious situation to come to grips with sometimes.

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Btw you are great at counseling, I mean it!

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My mother gained custody of me. She is a bossy ■■■■. She loves being in control.
Anyway i dont live with her thankfully but i have to get her agreement on things which has really turned me into a political animal.

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Maybe it’s a combination of different factors. A shade of grey instead of black or white.

You’re a good son for thinking about your father’s needs as he ages, btw. Family looks out for family, in my opinion, and I’m sure your dad appreciates your company, even if he gets a bit grouchy every now and then.

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Haha naaaaaah! I just relate hardcore to your situation :sweat_smile:

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Is your mom your rep payee or does she have POA?

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She doesnt have my money although she could gain access to my bank accounts if she wished by contacting my bank. Shes got POA

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No, I mean it. Allways positive vibes and good advice. Thanks :call_me_hand:

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Ah, I see. Sometimes POA can be a good thing, depending on whether or not god forbid you lose your shiit again.

I used to call my mom a dictator growing up :sweat_smile:. She did not appreciate that at all, haha.

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I once threatened to call Child Services on my mother when I was 9 years old because she was demanding that I pick up sticks outside

My mother doesnt understand master/slave ■■■■. Shes a ■■■■■■ up person. I love her. And she actually loves me in her own sick way, but no i dont need a guardian she did it because shes insane.
Anyway

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Thanks @dreamer, I appreciate your kind words :slightly_smiling_face: :call_me_hand:

Hey just curious btw: you made a post a while back about finding some good TV shows for your dad to watch— did he like any of the suggestions? :tv:

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