to guys
really
this topic for guys
and i know the very bad news!!! from a topic i made before
that we cant be in relation easily becoz women need someone who can be responsible someone who is not Mentally ill of course !!!
and most of us as guys are not in relation unlike ladies here
i knew that from a topic i made before
how do you cope to live without…
real relation to live with a lady and enjoy talking together
and real sex and thats a human need as you know
i feel like crazy that i m virigin didnt have sex and i m 34 yo
Im here
Im a woman but i just want to say it must be extremely difficult for men who seek a relationship without success. My heart goes out to you. Maybe work on being friendly to other women and don’t discount mentally ill women because it is possible for 2 ill people to fall in love. Just keep an open mind about it.
Oh I feel you, I was lucky enough to have relationships in my youth, although they didn’t pan out as I’d hoped.
I’ve been sexless for I think 8 years now and ever since psychosis hit. I don’t meet new women in my life, I think some would like me in spite of schizophrenia and my financial success but alas they would have to know me first which would require them to spend that effort with no assurance that they’ll find what they are looking for in me.
That’s the hand we’ve been dealt as guys and as guys with Schizophrenia in particular. It’s also a consequence of the times, single men were always at an undue invisible disadvantage in society and in the past all societies catered to us giving us noticeable compensation or advantages, voluntarily or involuntarily, bending over backwards to make this problem go away one way or the other, because they couldn’t last very long otherwise.
Don’t let this make you bitter. We were never owed what we received. My advice is just to understand that this isn’t something specific to schizophrenia or mental illness, we just have an added disadvantage but ultimately a huge chunk of single young men are having a though time. You are probably much less alone in this than you think, the number of young men without a partner AND without friends these days is staggering.
I wish I could help you. Just try and avoid letting this spill over beyond where it’s inevitable. Don’t let that which isn’t overpower that which is wherever you can. Oh, and good luck! I pray for the lonely and alone a lot, so find solace in the fact that even those who do not know you or heard of you and whom you’ve never heard of nor known have you in their thoughts and wish to see your future grow rosier.
I am 54 and just had strippers with couch dances. I use pornography and masturbation. It doesn’t make sense to me. Sex is either lust or for making a child. When is sex love? It is addiction. My father never masterbated and never talked about importance of sex in any way. I am also confused as I can’t seem to see the value of a relationship without sex. I guess when you finally have sex with someone you finally get it out of your system and see the value of the person and could care less about sex: And the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases makes me think it is addiction or lust to risk serious things like these for what. What is a more serious thing then creating a life. If you don’t have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy in anyway the peoples morals can be an issue. I still live with my parents and they have morals so I just can’t have females over for sex. I relax about never having sex with another person because I don’t have to worry about pregnancy and being responsible for my child in anyway like child support or something. I don’t have to worry about getting HIV AIDS and having to take more medication with side affects.
Oh what a jaded look. Truly if that’s how you’ve been bent to see its totality you do well with your perspective.
Sex is about being vulnerable and not caring, trusting the other person, putting the needs of the other over your own and finding on the other side someone who does the same and bonding over that reassurance.
I agree with pettyx sex is important and beautiful. All too often people reject it or see it as a sin… it isn’t. I could expound but I will leave it at that.
You have to have the experience of good sex to understand and strippers and porn won’t give you that.