But it’s also good not to stand on your pride , and to accept help when you need it.
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youre right @firemonkey…theres noting more stubborn than stubborn pride
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im hardly considered independent…im 42 and live woth my parents…but I suppose I could live alone but id be all lonely
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I live on my own, but get a lot of support. The thing I’m best at is managing my finances. I’m not a perfect money manager , but I don’t have any debt either. I cook for myself ,though it’s very simple stuff. I have been having stir fry twice a week though. I’ve also been buying one of those boil in the bag chickens and having it with sweet potato wedges, microwave veg and gravy.
I put my washing on, but get help putting it out to dry. I get help with keeping the flat clean. That was something I struggled with when living at my old address. My stepdaughter comes with me to doctor’s appointments, and if she can’t one of my granddaughters does.
My stepdaughter usually takes me grocery shopping. If not a granddaughter does. I make a shopping list and they take me round the aisles. They pack the shopping for me, and I pay with my debit card. Sometimes my stepdaughter suggests things to try(stir fries) .
From time to time she makes me things like cottage pie,chilli corn carne, and fish pie to go in the freezer.
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I’m as independent as I can be. But, I do accept help gratefully.
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No one is totally independent. We all have our level of being helped, both are good. But Americanism wants self-sufficiency. Not really possible- too much work. We think it’s the best but getting along with others is good too. Whats wrong with going to the store. Look at the love you brought out in those girls @firemonkey. People need to help, just like you. You are so blessed. And your girls I bet are so blessed to have you for a dad-granddad.
I am very lucky. They are all wonderful people. I know some stepfamily relationships aren’t good . I have 3 other stepchildren. The oldest has made it plain he dislikes me . This despite the fact when his mother was alive I never baulked at us helping him financially although we were not well off. I last saw him at my wife’s funeral over 13years ago. The second- she is polite. We are not particularly close , but she has never been bad to me. The third- he is not a good person at all. Has often been in trouble with the law. The youngest you know about 
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I think i am 41 and i am living with my step mum or former step mum because she is no longer with my father. (my parents may not be my real parents but the ones i was raised with)
She helps me more than he does.(as far as i know)
I am thankful for the independence i do have but i do struggle with some things.
This woman has said she sees me as a daughter and she has always been so good to me.
She said she will let me live in her apartment in October if she can and then I would live there by myself independently but i do not know how i would afford internet and bills because i am living in her house now and do not have to pay for that right now.
She works from 7 am till 9 pm approximately so i do not see her often.
And I do not work at all.
I am on the pension.
I have all afternoon to cook but i struggle feeding myself dinner.
I feel overwhelmed at the thought of cooking dinner.
I seem to be able to cook dinner for other people (sometimes) because my sister gives me exercise if i cook for her but i have only cooked once so far and that was difficult.
It is easier for me to cook for them than to cook for myself but i do not eat meat so idont eat the same food as them.
I want to be able to take care of myself independently but i struggle so much with dinner and have iron deficency.
So silly to feel overwhelmed and sometimes even depressed feelings of the thought of trying to cook dinner for myself.
My step mum works so hard.
Such long hours…
I have made her dinner on a weekend that she liked so glad i was able to please her.
I dont think i can afford to live in the apartment or if i can i will have no money for enough food etc and internet etc
My brain feels really damaged and fragile. specially the right side and specially at night time around medication time.
I manage to do my own grocery shopping now a days but some days are difficult and challenging.
I appreciate the independence i do have but i do feel overwhelmed by “simple” tasks sometimes and its so important to be able to feed one self but dinners are not easy.
I do need help and am glad I get help.
My brain feels as it does and i get some symptoms still although i am stable and paranoia, voices, delusions etc have not had i still have difficulties.
I am grateful I am a gym member and can go to the gym.
I used to feel attacked so could not go but i can go now.
I have my sacred neigh and she is the love of my life but she is really old and if she dies before me how will i cope…
I try to just appreciate every precious moment with her.
Also my step mum helps me like noone else and im really dependent on her how could i cope with out her love and kindness…
There is a woman who is a dream come true as she says she is my mother and beautiful words.
Thankfully I can drive but only to easy local places.
I am limited with my driving and i know i am not the best driver but i do my best to be good enough.
I need help with dinners somehow.
To not feel overwhelmed by it or depressed… to instead get some passion and joy to it.
I was on lite and easy and it helped me so much and i loved it but its expensive and i am a vegetarian and they only have meat dishes.
I think I am good with my finances and my x said i am good with my finances.
I pay agistment, food, etc
I only have $1000 saved for emergencies though.
I would like to have more money saved up specially for my sacred neigh but i am on the pension and am trying to keep up my maintenance also.
I seem to be good with grooming.
I brush my teeth and shower and have started wearing makeup lately. Not much but some.
Not sure what to do about dinners.
Just this overwhelmed feeling and sometimes a depressed feeling with it.
I managed to cook a nice dinner for others though but it took a lot out of me which they dont understand.
They think i have all the time to cook and that its no big deal.
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