I can’t stand socialing a lot I loses energy and don’t know what to say.i Enjoy social Sometimes,Sometimes not
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I can tolerate few person only…i have a lot of algoia…i talk a lot less… ■■■■ sz…!!! I am too worried about the future…
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I did OK in school and work because we were there with a common goal, but outside of that, forget it. I haven’t been to many social things in decades. A few funerals, but you have to look distressed there anyway. I can do that without thinking.
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I’ve come to the conclusion that any gratification I get will come apart from the social milieu people live in. I’ve gotten to where I prefer to be solitary. Such a life has its good points and its bad points.
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I don’t like socialising either. It’s hard work and not enjoyable.
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I’d rather do hard labor, at least then I’ll have enough energy to crawl into bed after!
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Yes I can only socialise for a while and then I have to be alone. It takes a lot of effort and concentration…
I used to struggle with that myself and sometimes still do. What REALLY helped me was reading the book “How to be a People Magnet”. I don’t recall the author but it was so insightful. Any time I applied a tactic from the book, the results were astounding! I get very reclusive at times and have a hard time leaving my room so I have to break the book out again and force myself to get out of the house! But I try to focus on activities I’m confident or talented in that create some sort of social interaction…like playing pool or dancing (hip hop) as it puts me on Cloud 9. 
Activities make the social interaction soooooo much easier.
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I like only to socialize with other MI people. 
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Yes I’d say definitely
I can socialise with family and other people with MI. With people apart from that it is very difficult.
Here I see family and the nurse who comes to do my depot. They are trying to get me to do more socialising. Social services are in the process of seeing what’s available.
Personally I’m not overly driven to want to socialise. Most of the time I prefer my own company or just seeing family. Sometimes I get bored with my own company and that’s when I need company. It’s not really something that fits in with “Go and do X every Tuesday” though. As I might not want to be with company every Tuesday. I guess I’ve agreed to the socialisation stuff because that is something mental health services tend to push, and to keep on the right side of them.
Another factor with keeping my own company is that I struggle with the (unwritten) rules of social engagement . Mentally it can be quite a strain. This very much ties in with the autistic traits/NVLD for which I have had no recognition and no help and support.
It probably also accounts for my very poor social skills, but again there has never been any help with that.
It seems that mh services just think you need to go out and socialise and you’ll soon have a social network. The trouble is that for some of us the very act of socialising doesn’t come easily. We need help and support to do so that often/usually just isn’t there.
I don’t really know what I’m doing socially and hate when I feel dumb
I find socialising difficult…I get nervous…I much prefer internet friends as im comfortable
I find that I prefer to socialize in small groups for very short periods of time. I need lots of quiet time. Too many people get too loud and I just get totally overwhelmed. Anytime I have to leave my house to deal with people I get easily overwhelmed
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