I was married for 25 years, and Dx’d Schizoafective/schiophrenic at the 10 year mark, so yeah, it’s quite possible.
If you think being Dx’d before you meet a man to marry is harder than being dx’d after you marry,
it’s not,
After my divorce, I remarried again at age 50 in the same year as my divorce.
Just depends on how determined you are to marry, and as long as you are not just looking for a caretaker for when you get bad, you will have a better chance of finding a mate.
I was on latuda and I switched to geodon. Latuda was good for my delusions, but I was sleeping a lot on it and having some anxiety. Geodon seems to be helping.
Back when I was very ill, I was told that the best I could hope for was to be made “somewhat comfortable” through medication. I was also told to give up all thoughts of normal things like education, a career, marriage, and having children. For the record, here’s my score 20 years later:
Anything is possible if you are willing to fight for it. My Sz is just one of many hills I’ve had to climb.
10-96
Thats amazing, did you do it while taking medication? Are you still taking medication? Why is 10-96 at the end of your post?
I think 10-96 is when he got clean from drugs and alcohol. pixel is an amazing man.
Your an inspiration @pixel but I just don’t think my life is going to be that fortunate. I feel as though god has it out for me and nothing I do is going to change my situation. Even though about two years ago when I got on Geodon I started feeling better and most of the symptoms were relieved I still cant manage to find a way out of this rut im in. I cant go back to school because my student loans were wiped away because I am on disability and couldnt afford to pay them. I think even if I got a job now it would just be some BS job that makes next to nothing and I wouldnt be able to afford anything…Like a house, car or just about anything. I feel is though I am doomed to sit here on disability. Ive just lost hope in my life ever getting better. I would love to find someone but who would want somebody like me. I think the best years of my life got lost when I got sick and theres no way of getting them back.
I also got the doom and gloom prognosis from a doc. I was told to just try to survive… don’t stress myself with things like trying to go to school or holding a job… It would be too much for me.
Now… I do have a full time job I like. I am in school so I can get better at the job I like. I have a girlfriend. I’m not saying it hasn’t been bloody hard work getting to this point.
Yes.
Yes.
That’s the ten code police use for calling in a mental subject (that would be me). It’s a reminder to myself that, “there but for the Grace of God go I.” I try to have a sense of humour about my situation.
If you think you won’t be successful, you won’t be. If you decide you will be successful, you’ll climb higher up the ladder than you are now. How high I can’t say, but no one wins a race who has decided they will lose before the starter’s gun has gone off.
You are likely giving me too much credit. Think more along the lines of stubborn @$$. 
10-96
I think that it should be on a case to case basis whether someone with schizophrenia should be married or not. Some people may be too sick to enter into what is a life-long commitment. We’re talking a potential ten-twenty-thirty year commitment. Not everybody can do that. After all, passion fades for many couples after two or three years (I’ve read). And love itself tends to lessen in strength. What your left with is two people who better be compatible and LIKE each other and can stand to be around each other.
I felt that way before too. I feel trapped but if we don’t keep fight we die a little inside.
Dude I think God tries us all individualy and its how we deal those trials that he judges us on.
Some people in bad circumstances do bad things if you have the strength to resist the negativety and not contribute to it you are doing great.
He will provide what you need but thats not possible if you don’t assist by getting out there and making a effort.
Even if it’s a BS job at least you would have a good reason to be interacting with people even if they are just your coworkers.
Ill place a gentlemans bet that if you really want to meet somebody bad enough and you interact with a job or being part of a community group you WILL meet somebody.
I feel the same as pixel ive accepted my disorder and feel better because of that.
It seems there are a lot of people that dont accept It and take meds waiting to be cured for good and when that isn’t happening they are depressed to the point of not functioning.
With my acceptance I started to figure how I can work my disorder into my life so I can have a somewhat positive life even though my interaction with society is minimal at best.
The only reason this made me smile… was when I was growing up… I was the ONLY one of my swim team or school circle… who’s parents weren’t divorced.
As I got older… the fact that my parents are still together seemed stranger and stranger.
I was also thinking… we just saw with George Cloony… some people can’t even handle 4 months.
I think people who really want to get married, can handle that, unless they want kids, that’s a part which also needs will to do it. I know that passion fades, but, still, being compatible with and like someone for me is enough to hold a relationship and, of course, a marriage. It is better than being alone for me. However, I think most women think like me and most men think like you, I don’t know why that is happening, perhaps it’s the structure of our brain? Still unknown.
I really want to believe that its true we can hope to marry and have children some day. I’m trying to come to terms with the fact that it might not happen to me. I never thought I wanted it until I realized I might not get it and I see everyone around me with it. Its really gotten to me since I saw a delivery last week, that I might never have children. My bf once said what if I mentally checked out again or SU/SI and left him alone with a baby. How would he explain to a child that mom is in the hospital again or dead? That really hurt to the bone when he said that and its stuck with me. In a way it makes me work harder towards recovery and then on the other hand it was so hurtful its hard to forgive him for saying that, knowing what he thinks of me.
My religion forbids FWB. But thank you yes. I hope so!
I’m sorry. That must of hurt termandesly. I’m afraid of being a mother
It would have to be with someone who would be committed for a lifetime. I would not be able to withstand the hardship of a separation or divorce.
I was diagnosed at 21 and married at 26 to my wonderful husband who gets me like no other. He takes care of me and I take care of him. He’s been with me through some really hard times, hospitalizations, drug addiction, and other detrimental health problems. He understands my schizophrenia as well as anyone who doesn’t have it can. We overcome it together.
What I’m saying is, “It is ABSOLUTELY realistic to be a schizophrenic and still expect to marry” You have to find the right person, someone that understands your particular SZ and is willing to go through the good and bad times with you. It’s hard to find the right someone, I lucked out and I’m grateful for it everyday.
Opps, wrong thread. It’s late…umm … yeah… that’s my excuse…