@moomop as far as drive goes I definitely think it’s meds inho… Because I’ve gone down about 5 milligrams on my medicine which was at 8 now I’m on 2.5 and I’m feeling so much more driven to do things… who knows though I’m still lazy… I’m just way more driven than I was
I blame my sensitivity to the environment to be the cause of my schizophrenia. It was in a relationship where I was engaged to a woman in college and I was very emotional all the time because I had an unaddressed thyroid condition too which added to the emotional aspect. It’s kind of dumb I guess now looking back that I would cry…big cry baby after all…
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Sometimes love happens if you want or not 
even if i have Sz, i mean it’s not a bad thing to love someone, right?
Definitely not! Love is the greatest gift were given in my opinion. We can give it in many different ways… I guess I’m just picky at the feelings I get when I love… I just wanna be head over heels… or wait… uhh, head over boots? I’m a guy idk why I’d have heels on lol
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I suppose it is but sz has affected my ability to feel “in love”. When I was 20 and quite sick with sz I had a boyfriend a wonderful man but I couldn’t get close to him and broke up three times with him over the course of a year. I felt unlovable. We stayed friends for another year. Then in 2012 I got married and it was also the year I relapsed. When I first met with my prospective husband there were no butterflies at all but I grew fonder of him over the years. It was love after marriage with us. Today I can’t say I’m “in love” with him but I know I do love him very much, just not necessarily in a sexual way. Sz and meds have killed off my sex drive almost completely. But I love to hug and kiss hubby on cheek and be affectionate even though I don’t care about sex.
It means the heels of your feet, not shoes. Everyone has heels!
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woooowwww that might quite possibly the most dumb blonde thing I’ve ever said lmao
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I used to listen to this song very much when i was a child and now also 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oz6c0bhINeg
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I was deeply in love with my ex husband, but years of my illness eventually took it’s toll, and we divorced, very amicably. He’d been my carer for so long that the relationship changed and we couldn’t get back what we had.
However, I met a new man, and 2 years into our relationship we still have that ‘butterfly feeling’. We both feel like we have something truly special and lasting, and feel blessed that we found each other.
I honestly believed that my life was over when I got divorced from my ex, I really though it could never happen again, but against all my expectations, it did.
I truly hope you find someone too, never give up.
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It is possible to feel “in love”. What I have found though is that I’m never completely “given over” to love because of paranoia/trust issues. I married the love of my life three years ago, and I’m absolutely in love with him, but those butterfly feelings aren’t anything to build a future on.
We build on our relationship over time. (Been together over nine years) And true love is the ugly one, not the pretty butterfly one. It’s the one that hangs in there, supports and carries you through everything.
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as long as a man can dream, he can always feel “in love.” I’m out. 
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Yes I think it’s possible. After my first psychotic episode, which lasted a good five years, I fell in love with the man I plan to marry this May. I had another psychotic episode in 2015 which I’ve been wavering in and out of ever since and I’m still in love with him.
I’m also in love with my cat. I daydream about both of them when I’m not near them. And I miss them like hell when I go away to visit my family.
Maybe you just haven’t met the right person. Never give up on love, you never know when it will find you. And I hope it does find you because it’s such a wonderful thing.
Also, welcome to the forum!
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I agree with Hedgehog that true love is the ugly one not the butterfly one. The one that supports in the hard times. It’s the kind of love i have for my husband. He has really severe epilepsy (15 or so seizures a month) and the subsequent muscle troubles that go with it and I have sz so there is a lot of caregiving in our marriage - usually me for him.
It’s not easy being married and there’s no butterflies in it but I have as I said grown fond of my husband over the four and a half years we have been married. Even thru so many arguments and catching him when he falls and occasionally cleaning up urine from incontinence after his seizures and driving him around and even after two hospitalisations each, we are still together.
Yes true love is tough and ugly but underneath it is so beautiful because it’s so real and so enduring.
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I was in love once but it was fueled by delusion. Weird time.
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I hope that sz has nothing to do with not falling in love. 
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someone once accused me of being too spiritually minded to be any earthly good
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Heck I’m always in love but then another swinging maid comes along and distracts me ad infinitum. I haven’t hooked up for years though. Seems I am a serial fantasist and I think I like it that way 
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I too wonder if I can anymore now that my medication seems to have destroyed my sex drive. There was this woman that I was in love with. Every once in a while I would think about her and feel my affection still there. However I feel it less and less and with less strength to it as time goes on. Don’t know if that is time or what the meds are doing to me.
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On antipsychotics I am very unable to feel strong emotions, It is a big trade off, either be crazy or heartless. Yes, I admit it, I have residual negative symptoms, and they significantly reduce my quality of life. But perhaps I am fine because I am at least able to do my online community college classes and earn decent grades. Maybe in the future I will find the drug which really pulls me out of this, so far they have all flattened me.
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Thanks everyone for your responses. I would of replied sooner but I’m out of data and I had to wait for my dad to get home so I could use his hotspot… It seems it just depends on the person. Also probably the person you’re with. I pray for all of you who are married, that your marriages only get better. For those of you that aren’t I pray you find that special someone that you fall in love with. Thanks for the encouragement everyone. I can’t wait to see more from yall!