Have you ever gone out of your way to help someone else, even though you would rather not?
Did you feel better after doing it, or worse?
yes I have and I feel better.
Just be careful, the person you might be trying to help is behind the trigger 
Depending on the situation you know? care to elaborate?
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I have a sign on the inside of my bedroom door, it says
“Don’t be an assh*le”
I’m gonna learn cross stitch and make it prety.
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Done so without the thought of whats in it for me several times, over all though it has never lead to anything good,
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Being helpful, and pleasant, I get to do things that I wouldn’t choose to do, but afterwards, it makes me feel good to help others that need it.
Can you turn down a request from someone who needs help if you don’t like doing the task itself, say like cleaning out a garage for a person who has limited mobility?
Or would you just tell someone no, that your not up to it?
I have trucks and trailers and I get the standard can you help me move, I move heavy everyday, but it’s either scrap or heavy enough I use other equipment to move it, Moving personal stuff is different than what I do and involves a lot more bending and lifting as well as stairs, all which I will suffer in pain doing with my arthritis.
I do say no often, one reason is I move stuff everyday all year round, it’s not something I want to do on my day off, Last one I agreed to I showed up and she said her help never showed up so I would have to do it all, I agreed to supply a truck not move her, the person before her I agreed to help a bike part went through my tire and cost me $150.00 and no offer to help pay for it. My point being is seldom do things go the way they should and other than 1 person I know will I ever get anyone elses help for free, I’m usually left to hire someone if I need help.
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I would help someone though, just I rather it not be moving
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Depends on the situation. If the person is a nice respectful man or woman and they need a couple of bucks for food and tney aren’t allowed in the store, I might go in the store and buy something for them whether I feel like it not. If the person is not nice and I help them just because I am afraid to look bad if I don’t help them than yes, I would feel worse, and it is on me. I think being pleasant is an ideal I should aspire too.
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Yes. Being pleasant is deeply important to me. I think everyone should be treated with respect, and it is very important to be polite as well. I just get furious when I see people not doing so.
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There is a huge difference in helping someone and being taken advantage of. I can’t blame you at all @Mountainman for turning folks down who just want to use you. Shame on them for doing that to you.
You sound like a very decent person to me.
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The people that you help, will hold you in high regard! 
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I have a soft spot for the elderly folks who need the help.
It really gives me a good feeling to be useful.
I always feel better after helping people, even when I would rather not. I have a soft spot for the elderly too.
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