Do you ask friends or family to do stuff for you which you can do by yourself?
I do not have the guts to ask anyone for anything. Took me an hour to decide to ask my partner to buy me contact lenses because I do not like wearing glasses or driving there right now
I’m the same as you, I pretty much never ask anyone for any favors. I don’t want to inconvenience people, but I also don’t want to be indebted to anyone.
I’m constantly pestering my dad to help me with stuff like driving and getting meds
i hate doing that! really hate!
its not about debt i just dont want to look annoying and incompetent
I don’t like debt. I don’t do it often but when I do I do it kicking and screaming and I hate it. I even do dangerous things alone if I suspect nobody is going to help. I probably stick to much to this ideology but I think help should be voluntary.
I used to hate it, but then I got sick with a brain tumor. My parents couldn’t afford the surgery, so they wanted to throw a fundraiser. I felt totally humiliated at becoming a charity case, but my dad’s friend told me that he just hated that I’m sick, and he wants to make it better somehow. But he can’t fix me, because he’s not a doctor. So the next best thing he can do is help pay the guy who can fix me. He really wanted me to just accept the money and not be mad.
That was how I learned that people actually love being able to help others, and it can help build strong friendships!
Hm, I guess you could say I ask my mom or dad once in a while can you grab me this, or that from another room, but usually if they’re already going in that room and plan on on coming back. Like I don’t ask them to go out of their way. As for people outside my parents no, I don’t really ask for favors. I have a weird/scared feeling that when they ask me for something in return I may not be able to, or want to do their favor. You know like you never get anything for free, they may help you out but then they’ll come back to you and say well I did such and such for you…I need you do this for me. I just don’t like “owing” people.
Yeah I kind of use my parents a bit more than I should, but I do, do a lot for them as well…like just today/yesterday I had to work on their computer because some reason some games weren’t loading. I eventually have to figure out how to get of connection expectation or whatever message it is telling my mom on Facebook when she’s on AOL…they’ll be gone all next week though and I can take my time on that one while they’re gone. I occasionally ask them for money, but I always give them money when they’ve needed it and I had it. Sometimes I worry about being considered a mooch, but if I’m financially unable to support myself on my own and I do lend them money when I can and do things like work on their computer and do the dishes every night am I still considered a mooch?
hah where were you to tell me this before
gonna contemplate now on your words