I don’t know if im posting too much with you guys idont want to upset anyone 
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I worry about money and if i can afford the bills coming in as they are a lot
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Uk seems to want everyone working so im worried I’ll be forced to work once disability is up for review
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I worry about hubbys health
I think I’ll be dead soon because of my obesity and the antipsychotics shorten life span i read a few times, i don’t know how bad they do
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Im worried about other things but i can’t make it worse by going into all that
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That’s a lot. Can you talk it out with your therapist, medical provider or husband. You shouldn’t have to take on all the burden.
Are there any goverment assistance that can help with your bills.
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do you think you will get disability? why would you have to work…unless you don’t get your disability.
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Can you find a dietitian to consult with about your diet? Sometimes they will do it for free.
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Jukes the Uk is very tough on disabled people make you jump thru hoops to get disability. Im on in now but it gets reviewed every 3 yrs
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just tell them you can’t concentrate which is probably true anyways…no working then…
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Hi kvev
The waiting list for therapist free in uk is 1-2 years i don’t have one
Theres no gov assistance
I get disability but it barely enough
Wow. OK.
You and your husband need to worry about both your health first. Nothing else matters if you die, right?
So just break it down and prioritize your burdens that you have to worry about. Cause worry about everything all at once is overwhelming and solves nothing.
Then, financials - don’t worry about review, hope your medical records prove you need continued disability. Let’s just say for now you will get an extension.
Anyway to save, cut corners, buy food in bulk, and cheaper healthy foods like a bag of russet potatos in the US is $2. I have reduced my grocery bill by eating at home and just cheap but healthy food.
Get extensions on utility or whatever bills you have - talk to your credit card companies. Bankruptcy a thing in the UK?
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Thanks kxev
Thanks really excellent advice there
Yes i eat tinned food a lot because its cheap. I buy really cheap food. I shop in aldi. I can’t afford takeaways. I should be skinny on what i eat really
I will take your advice definitely x
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I am finally catching up - but last few years I had the same worries in addition to SZ. I was going through the disability process in the US and burdened with debt and medical health issues too.
just be thankful for every day, I guess.
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I don’t have an answer, but I’m sorry you’re struggling so much. Definitely continue to report how this affects you life ie concentration etc so you can maintain your benefits. I hope it all works out for you. Sorry I’m not of quality help
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I don’t know whether i overly worry everything because of my illness
I seem to worry an awful lot
I think my nurse and the government are spying on me all the time
I give up its bloody useless worrying myself to death, i will take a Diazapam soon and go to bed i tried talking to hubby but he doesn’t want to talk about anything. Hes interested in his new computer and his mates
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You should talk to a therapist to work through this. Request a therapist to talk to. Hopefully they can help
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I’m partneared too. It is difficult managing this illness in a relationship for me. I hope you guys can communicate with eachother better. Sometimes I forget or withdraw and I agitated but remember your both in this together. Sorry you don’t have a therapist but definitely put yourself on the waiting list if that’s how backed up it is where you are.
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I think im beyond help
I shouldn’t really be burdening anyone with my problems but i do appreciate being able to chat with you
Ive seen therapist in the past briefly maybe 5 sessions of cbt
5 of emdr
Something like that. I found it a bit pointless
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That few of sessions isn’t enough. You need to try for at least a year. I’m in a year long intensive therapy program and it’s helping me a lot so far
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Oh right nobody’s said that before, so i needed more sessions
Okay then I’ll ask my nurse to go on the waiting list, thanks 
Just took a Diazapam i worry so much about everything
In therapy i never got past the introduction really, talked about traumatic things and cried.
Ive never been given advice apart from a few photocopied information about anxiety etc
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Ive googled a few things myself over the years but i dont retain information very well
Tbh if i read about anything mental illness like ptsd or depersonalization i can relate so i must have a few things going on
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With therapy and case manager I just work on current problems. And how to get through them.
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