I think me and my husband are done.
Is he upset because of how you spoke to his mother? Maybe, after both of you calm down, you can have a respectful discussion about why you felt you had to stand up to her. Couples fight all the time. It doesn’t have to mean things are over.
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What happened? 151515
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Just take a pause, I know I can’t speak from personal experience (haven’t had a real serious relationship before) but couples fight. I watch my parents, they get int spats every now and again eventually calm down after talking about it with each other. They’ve been married almost 45 years in July. Whatever happened you have your reasons for how you act, and he has his own reasons. The hard part in being a couple is learning how to accept and communicate between the differences in opinions. You may have to take a step back, let a day or so go and tread very lightly around him until things cool down but if you work hard at it you can go through anything.
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good point! I can’t agree more.
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Not so much upset with how I talked to his mom, I mean he is having a hard time with I don’t want anything to do with her after she threw my mental illness in her face, but it was more of me saying I don’t think we should be together and it’s been a long time coming. I feel he doesn’t support me all time. He’s to busy with work and when he gets home he just yells at the kids and goes to sleep.
Thank you. He is saying can’t we just take a break so I can sort things out. So I’m gonna give him some space for now. At my parents now. Whenever I return home if things can’t change I’m going to end up leaving 
some times a little space is better than just giving up right away. After a little time and space things calm down, and become more clear. In the end though, (I don’t know your situation) you have to do whatever is best for you. He has to meet your needs just as you have to meet his, it’s not fair if one side is doing all the work.
Just don’t do anything rash in the heat of the moment, take some time and really work it out whether its toward’s a happily together forever deal or that you have to end up apart. Whatever is best for you, and only you can decide that in the end.
I know it can be even harder with children in the picture, but also think of them, is it fair to raise them in such a tension filled home? Or would it be better if things were different? Again, these are questions only time and yourself can answer.
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