I'm sad about being only 25 years old

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Between the ages of 23 and 25 I probably would have gone for assisted suicide if it was available in my country. I’m grateful that it wasn’t. I started to stabilize on meds after my mid-twenties and was able to add on other treatments that really helped. I’m not recovered from SZ, but my illness is well-managed now and I have a good life. By that I mean wife, kid, career, fun hobbies, doing okay financially, etc.

It’s worth mentioning that I still have some trouble socializing and it is draining for me, too. But I can do it when I need to, so that’s something. (I’m 54 now.)

Sending you hugs and good vibes mate.

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Your advice IS awful. Learn to read a room.

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@Headspark if you post in this thread again I will suspend you.

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I’m much more happy then I was 12 years ago when I was having bad times. Things do improve. I’m glad I didn’t do anything stupid then.

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I am in the same boat as you @INDIAN_OCEAN , but i am just opening my eyes at my 40s. Believe me, sz is not something final, you can and will improve!!!
The meds didnt work very well on me either, i had to fight alone and this works. Believe me, you can get happy, you will do it, want it and believe it and its better that you are young, cause you have all your life in front of you!
I knew an isolation for 20 years, imagine what has gone through my head… I was also totally given up, nothing was able to save me… Now i started to hope and believe and just move a bit more, my ap is maintaining me to not be in my bed (its zyprexa), so dont give up! Sz is beatable, you can be totally well with it, its ok to be different. Dont listen to headspark… I am alone even now and i am disappointed about my friends, who didnt believe in a well being for me, i was completely alone in my struggle… Dont do stupid stuff, we probably just have to learn something here…
Pls, stay well, you are not alone, the most of us here has gone through a monstrous things too…
Stay well, please! Theres light in the tunnel, believe me!!!

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You can’t make a decision about the rest of your life based on feelings. The means (bad experience) doesn’t justify the ends (non existence). Life is a series of temporary situations. Right now you need some cognitive reframing. Don’t give up on getting older; you develop more life experience and coping skills, you’re a young dude and I think you’re looking too far ahead and probably rationalizing too much. I think extremes should be avoided. I’m aware enough too know I don’t have all of the answers. I don’t believe people should be happy everyday; sometimes life sucks, but our capacity to choose how we view reality is within our reach. Keep getting support. Get a routine. Do some self love, little stuff. Get some hope, whether it’s wishful thinking or some philosophy on how to live a good life. A lot of great thinkers have been produced that took on the minds abyss; explore them. You’re not alone when it comes to trying to find a healthy framework or meaning to suffering. I know what it’s like to be fragile when the system chews you up and spits you out. I think young guys deal with their identity and if they’re productive; being schizophrenic makes you rethink what you’re identity is without productivity in your life; you have to find a different level of acceptance from life; a different validation for your daily living. It’s ok to give up on life a few days a week but just stay up the other days. Try to have more good days than bad days. You can get all of the best advice in the world but unless you can find meaning and self love in your suffering you’ll constantly go down the same rabbit hole. I wish you well and have a good day today.

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Yes I feel the same, I wish I was older so I didn’t have that much of life left. 60 y.o would be good. I do have some hope though for a better life, like the new medications coming out.

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What was mentioned earlier is simply a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Things ebb and flow, and some days it’s harder than others— situations can and do improve. Sometimes it just takes a little time, so please be kind to yourself during this phase.

Best of luck to you :purple_heart:.

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I’m the opposite, I have recovered enough to see that I am glad to be alive, i started following my faith and it led me to a good place, i had ups and downs but i trusted the plan that was set before me and so i am glad i am alive, grateful for life, we are knitted together and life should be celebrated, mental illness does make it hard and aklmost unbearable sometime but i hope that is not the case all the time, where there is life there is hope,

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I wanted to die from age 15 to about 37. I now have a much better life and I want to live. Don’t give up!

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Hey i used to think like that a lot. Heck it still happens.
But you gotta remember things indeed can get better. They can get worse too.

Look for the little things in life that might bring you some element of enjoyment. Dont worry about what other people are up to or their energy levels etc.

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I keep trying to write a response to the argument above, but the words aren’t coming— partly out of disbelief that it was suggested for a non-terminal mental illness, and partly because, well, what does one say about such a delicate matter?

What I can say, is that this illness can be very isolating. Society doesn’t understand. Movies and TV vilify and misappropriate. Most treatments available can’t heal— only treat or dampen. And even then, some symptoms still stick around.

If there were more community supports and better understanding of SZ-spectrum disorders, I do believe that the emotional impact of this condition could be greatly lessened and alleviated for many.

In the meantime, we can hold onto the good times, fight through the bad, and hope that someday the world will finally catch on to what living with SZ-spectrum disorders is really like.

Ultimately, this is a tough condition to face, however, it is not a terminal illness— there is always a chance for improvement in one’s circumstances; many of us here are proof of that fact.

Living with a chronic illness is a marathon— not a sprint. And while we didn’t sign up for this particular race, each of us here has exemplified the strength, courage, and drive required to run it in the best way we can.

A permanent solution to a temporary problem is not the answer— things can and do get better. :purple_heart:.

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I suffer but I don’t wish to die I’m sorry you do… Ask for help it could make a difference

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When I was young the voices were really terrible. But I still had a lot of hope for a better day. I also imagined that maybe the voices would go on after I died. Now there’s little hope for a better day but I don’t regret holding on. I would have missed too much.

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I felt the same way a few years ago. I was suicidally depressed at the time.
I would reach out to proffesionals if I were you.

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I had a death wish since age 19. It built up over the years until it produced a voice that tried to kill me. Then I had to fight that. So I chose to stay alive as long as it’s not unbearable and I have no responsibility. Some people say I do have responsibility and I appreciate their viewpoint because I don’t mind doing those ordinary things.

Today I slept all day and didn’t wake up at all until 2 p.m. Tomorrow I hope to be more active. I have my good days and my bad days. Now I’m older, 52, I am a little less angry. I’m physically comfortable most of the time. I’m alive for some reason but wanting to be old is a mistake. Old age is not pretty. I don’t know what else to say. You can go but I’m going to stay.

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Ive gone through periods where i was seriously suicidal. Life was extremely bleak. I was planning my death, burning things i didnt want others to see after i was gone. I hated life. I wanted out. I truly didnt think things would improve, BUT TRUST ME things did improve, things can truly turn round for you…alot of schizophrenics are aware how tough sz is but trust things do improve with age

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I’m happy to be young but I feel like my life is wasting away. No social life for 9 years.

I’m 27…

I wish I could move to Hawaii and have a huge family/social circle. I. can’t see my life getting any better. Just gonna persevere and hope there’s an alien invasion in my lifetime xD

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Brother, im 27. I felt bad at 25 too. But i managed to get a degree between 24 and 27. And mamaged to get four jobs in that time. I couldnt keep any longer than two years, but i can see physical stamina improves with age when it comes to this illness. At 22 when i was diagnosed. I couldnt hold a full time job. Now. At 27, i held one for four months and am expecting to try again.

You will be okay if you can beat your pain

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I’ll say this. When I was at the height of my psychosis for two years I would have had a great case in favor of dying. I suffered horribly to say the least. Really. At that time, I was also suicidal. If legal suicide was available at the that time, I’m sure I could have found a few doctors who would have said, “Wow, you are suffering with no end in sight. From what you are telling us, I think you are a good candidate to die”. And it’s likely I would have agreed. That scenario is not far-fetched. I really don’t know how I survived my first year of schizophrenia. But I did survive. But if legal suicide was available in the eighties
I would have missed out on:
(not in chronological order)

Flying across the country a few times and standing in front of the White House, Lincoln Memorial and Arlington cemetery.

Being best man at my dads wedding

Having a girlfriend

Water-Skiing for the first time

Jet-skiing for the first time

Going to concerts like Bruce Springsteen, Bob Dylan, Heart, R.E.M., Pink Floyd, etc.

Driving around in my own (1970’s) Cadillac

Having a few good friends

Being the best worker at a couple of jobs

Eating out at too many restaurants to count

Seeing too many movies to count

Yeah, if Euthanasia had been legal in 1980 I would have missed out on all those things and more.
Because at ages 19-20 I had no logical, discernible reason to go on.
And I’m sure there are MANY, MANY people like me. Maybe not on THIS forum but somewhere out in the wide world there are many schizophrenic people who were hopeless but are now glad that they didn’t kill themselves. Who can look back at age 30 and say, “Boy, I really wanted nothing more then death, but I’m sure glad I didn’t do it”. When people want to die it’s often because their perspective is off. They are going by how they are feeling and not looking at the whole picture. They’re only seeing a part of the puzzle. Everything looks hopeless, the world looks cold. Do these sound like individuals who are in the position to make the right choice about their life?

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