And im making it everyone thats ever hurt mes problem
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I’m sorry you’re struggling. Just remember you can’t change others, you can only change yourself. That said don’t let anyone mistreat you or bring you down
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I just told my ex i felt extremely duscarded. He told me one week i was important to him and that he loved me, nothing changed, then he dumped me, and never talked to me again. Im still mad as hell about it. I didnt deserve that.
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No, you didn’t deserve that. But I’d someone who mistreats you so unfairly really worth your thoughts? Nope. Let your ex go. Completely.
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Its hard. Ive known him for 10 years
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Friend : whats wrong
Me: trauma
Friend: just.move on
Me:… k
Me: thats rude and hurtful
Friend: im not going to just spare yoyr feelings.
Ugh i sqear to GOD im going tk explode. Im just going to not ■■■■■■■ talking to pekple avojt ■■■■ anymkre
Maybe its irrational but idk if i want to be friends with someone that talks to me like this. ■■■■ that. She told me she was there for me, and asked me whats wrong, then completely invalidated me.
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In AA they say that when you do that the other person is “taking up space in your head and not paying rent.”
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You know each other for 10 years, it takes two to tango. When you don’t like it you can leave. Maybe your partner knows your record in and out, there is maybe nothing he can do and he don’t want to be your sounding board anymore. You can rage about it online.
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I dont really get your reply, seems like assumptions youve made based on very little info
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In both those short examples you gave, those individuals clearly don’t understand trauma. Telling me to get over it is so awful in my world.
You asked on another thread if it’s okay for you to be here. It absolutely is anyway, but especially when the people in real life are invalidating your feelings and pain.
Maybe not everyone here has major traumas outside of their sz like we do, but pretty much everyone here is traumatized by virtue of their illness. That gives us all a starting point and meeting place.
Here is a safe place to feel like maybe things can be okay for a little while. You’re very welcome here. There is room for you and always will be. People here understand you and will never reject you for being too sick.
This place is special that way. And you belong unconditionally, whether today is a good or bad day. On good days we celebrate, on bad days we support. The friendships matter just as much as real life ones- cause we might not physically see each other, but we’re all real people, really here, and really caring.
Feel better soon. But I can listen when you’re not too. 
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