I met this sweet guy when I went to rehab last month. He has schizophrenia. We fell in love. Everything went well in the first 2 weeks. We talked about taking our relationship to a higher level once we get out. I accepted his mental condition and started to be really involved in his recovery.At first I find his paranoia funny and cute but eventually it went worse. His delusions and paranoia were becoming more frequent than ever. He got jealous of every guy who came close to me inside the rehab. He would wake up 2 AM and ask the guard to check on my room because he heard footsteps of a guy going to my room. Sometimes he would sneak up my room just to check if I had a guy inside. I really pity him that he has to suffer such paranoia and delusions due to his illness. I love him but I don’t know how to deal with him during his episodes of paranoia. I can’t seem to get through him because he believes whatever the voices he hears inside his head dictates as real. I want to help him, take care of him because I truly love him but do we have a chance to succeed in love? What do you think from a scale of 1 - 10 is our chance to have a lasting relationship? [poll type=number min=1 max=10 step=1 public=true]
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It’s all gonna depend on whether or not he gets on a good med regimen and sticks with it.
Chances are big that you will be a care taker and not his wife if he is not med compliant or can’t or won’t find the right med.
I learned from my partner, you won’t just be a girlfriend or lover but a caretaker and partner in his treatment. its rough but i’m sure my partner wouldn’t want it any other way. she loved me before I got sick so its a little different for us then with you. she helps with my pills sometimes comes with to doctor appointments.
I din’t vote because I don’t know which way 1- better odd or 10-better odd.
It really just depends on his treatment and trust level with you. Treatment he can get through meds and therapy - he only has control of doing so. Trust level comes with time and want. That has always been a big issues with me and my paranoia - the reason my first marriage failed.
It is a long, hard road for both the sz and the so. You have to ask yourself is it worth it? It could be years, many years of no trust and paranoia. Or it could never change.
This is in the wrong part of the forums. You’ll want to repost this in the Family and Caregiver section:
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