I don’t need relationship,I want relationship but I know I need to start with friendship and friendship is what I really need now
Jesus yes Thor Buddha this is it! @notmoses you are the pimpin shrink on site, literally
Im a budding shrink, like a fertilized egg or embryo or whatever you are the real deal
You totally have a MS in psychology
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So much knowledge is ■■■■■■■ sexy. ?!
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Dude, I’ll just give you one advice: Valorize your girl until you have her, because when she’s done with you it will be too late. I learned this the hard way…
One guy on TV said when he asked a friend what he wanted in a wife, the guy said he wanted “a Sunday school teacher who looks like a playboy bunnie”. Good luck finding that. There are girls who I’ve passed up that I wished I hadn’t. They talk about how girls can find guys who are “diamonds in the rough”. The same is true of guys finding girls who are diamonds in the rough. There are a lot of women out there who just need a little polishing to really shine.
Bingo. Big time. (You are way fortunate to have grasped this at your age. I wasted soooooooooo much time not seeing this.)
Yeah ■■■■ em. Literally if you can. 
More seriously though, I wouldn’t let a girl wring me around like that either. Good luck out there man.
There is still a chance that she’ll realize what she’s done and learn from it.
Women love being women. Sensitive slaves to whatever they feel at any moment. They got no control.
That is sexist, and very broad and general… but I think they should still get paid the same.
“Please take proper care of me, I barely understand what is going on.” Lol douchebagery
Uhhhhhhhh, welll, what decade are we coming from here? I still see women who are “confirmed victims” at the bottom of the Karpman Drama Triangle (see Karpman drama triangle - Wikipedia) looking for knights on white steeds to rescue them, but the vast majority are older… or from non-European cultures. In this day and age, most adolescent American and European females I encounter are somewhere between a little bit and just plain rabidly feminist.
Until they get into a relationship. Then it’s the man’s fault almost 100% of the time that they’re having problems.
Look I’m just being a douche to rile up Sarad.
Is there a reason for that? (Just wondered.)
Probably not a valid one.
Oh well oh well oh well
turnthepage Maybe set limits with her this time. Work out some sort of arrangement. From what it looks like to me is she really, really wants your attention. Maybe she feels like you aren’t as interested in her as she is in you? To my knowledge girl tend to get a little nuts when they feel like they aren’t receiving enough attention. Or at least I do. Set time aside for her but make sure she knows when you need you time.
I agree with you @SoitGoes. Women love other women. I feel pretty confident that they human race would die out if people could just choose to be gay.
Hah, that’s a funny thought.
Recycling a comment on another thread that seems applicable here:
"…just slamming pts with more Oxt [oxytocin] would seem to have a potential to induce problems with boundary awareness and appropriate selectivity.
“Many sz pts I have observed in tx settings have such difficulties big time, typically rebounding from observable extremes of connection-seeking and bonding driven by seemingly unreasonable fear of isolation to equal and opposite extremes of alienating others driven by fear of abuse.”
It’s been my observation-based theory for years that this is the essential dynamic that makes intimate relations so difficult for sz pts and those who attempt to bond with them. Btw, pretty much the same dynamic applies to pts dx’d with bipolar and borderline personality or dissociative identity disorder.
Interviews of such pts almost invariably turn up histories of similar “treachery” with parents and/or others upon who the pts depended in early life for survival.
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If you could only speak a 3rd grade level English 
I don’t believe in a life long commitment unless it is an open one which requires a totally new perspective I guess.
As I understand there are two opposite sides in the relationship spectrum, im with fear of isolation slightly moving to the fear of abuse with each new one.
Really, im like a ■■■■■■■ magnet for abusive guys. I guess its just a male thing, that complex of poverty, don’t you think?
Love can take a lot of abuse. Don’t fall in love unless you know what you’re doing.
Like @notmoses was saying. It’s just a trick of oxytocin.
I like that gutteral feeling that some girls give me, but even that fades.
I try (on occasion), but it’s tough to do with these scientific concepts. PM me if it’s worth the effort to understand the stuff.
I agree 100%. But even when I encounter people who understand that, it becomes evident in time that most understand and agree with it here, but are also conditioned to be “conventional” there. I grew up in Hollywood, btw. This is a Way of Life there many claim they can do, but often cannot in actual practice.
Pretty much my experience as a bipolar in an embarrassing # of flings. (Sigh.)
The world is full of men whose mothers seduced here and abused there. We want the “fix” and ignore the potential until our narcissistic imperatives do sufficient abuse to the two-legged objects of our addiction to make them either reactively abusive or rejecting.
The dynamic I described above is more male than female, but females have their own typical fear of this vs. fear of that schematic. It’s generally less about sexual stimulation seeking and more about seeking a sense of (often false) security, but not always: Having had sufficient experience with those who are physically gifted, I’d say that – in general – the more “attractive” or “sexy” a woman is, the more likely she is to seek stimulation vs. mere (pseudo-) security.
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You’re a ■■■■■■■ genius mate!
I think the string of responses to @Sarad 's statements may explain why.