Money advice

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Hey guys I need some advice. I get a bit of money every week, but I’ve usually givena large chunk of it to a friend because he needs it more. I have two cards, so I’ve given him the card the money comes in on, and I usually send him the code sunday evenings so he can retreive it on mondays.
After the fight we had where he declared we shouldn’t see each other anymore, he said he don’t want my money no more.

I could really use that money for a bus pas, but I feel like I should send him the code anyways to show I want to make amends.
The logical thing would be to keep the money myself, but I would feel like such a jackass for doing that.

Any thoughts?

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Keep the money for yourself.

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If you are getting gov assistance and are giving it to a friend it seems slightly illegal.

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that’s very generous of you

is this a friend with benefits?

I feel real bad when I lose people out of my life
but I’d say maybe it is time to cut ties.

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Just a regular friend, no “benefits”.

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It’s actually illegal. It’s called fraud.

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It’s not from the government, it’s from my parents.
But that doesn’t make it any better

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Stop giving money to an abusive dick. He is his own responsibility and you are yours. And your parents send that money to help you, not your abuser. I’m guessing they’d be pretty upset if hey knew what you do with it.

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Being overkind is bad to both you and your former friend. @Pikasaur Don’t give yourself too much credit for being overkind.

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You have a kind heart and that is commendable. Your parents send you money to take care of yourself though. This so-called friend sounds like an abusive user and shouldn’t be getting money from you.

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I agree with @disciple

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Ya i dont understand why u keep giving him money Berru!!

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I don’t know why you give your money away, you don’t have enough to be doing that

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What would your parents think if they knew what you were doing with the money? I don’t think they would be too happy about it.

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Its your money, you can do what you want with. Are we not free to choose.

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I agree with @disciple and @Ninjastar

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@Pikasaur It’s kind of you to want to help other people. However, you have the responsibility to take care of yourself and it seems like you really need this money.

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I’m working on financial boundaries with my therapist. Because when people ask me for money I usually give it to them. If I don’t I fill guilty or I’m afraid the will not talk to me anymore. I would tell you to keep the money because if you give it to them. They may not care to be with you

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By giving your friend money, you are telling him it’s alright for him to abuse you and it’s not.

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I agree with everyone here and I think you should always put yourself first before anyone else