My one childhood friend possibly suicided
Actually, more teenage years friend.
I wasn’t talking to her for several years, checked her Facebook, and her profile is different. It’s when a person dies and it shows memorialised account.
It’s truly truly horrific. I remember she asked me several years ago- how did I cope with depression, how to finally feel better and etc.
I remember I replied in long messages, but actually I did nothing else.
I regret we didn’t met and talked about how she feels in real life.
I know you would like to have done more, but her life was in her hands, not yours. There is nothing you could do to take the reigns and keep her alive.
I know, the world is like that. People will help, but they will become distant by necessity because they must deal with their own affairs. If someone cannot live without needing other people constantly to assist emotionally they are in a bad way. Nobody can be for someone around the clock support
I am not sure whether I agree with you… I mean, she was a sweetheart. I don’t think she wanted someone to be around her non stop, she just needed better meds, more caring people maybe?
She had serious depression and anorexia.
Well, overall it’s hard to say what could be different, mostly because I wasn’t near her for many years.
I never stop thinking about my childhood friend who committed suicide 5 years ago. And he did it with 3 kids under 10 years old and no signs he was feeling like that. Wish you all the best @anon8411913
Sorry I guess I misinterpreted. I was just trying to make the message that you can’t be there for someone completely. A person needs to be their own support to a certain extent, and that is lost when they are being suicidal. Sorry, if I didnt understand the situation.
When someone dies, it is common to feel guilty, or wonder what you could have done to prevent it. This happens because it gives us the illusion of control. If it was all our fault, that means we can stop it from happening again.
The truth is, sometimes there is nothing you can do to change a tragedy. You talked with her. That probably meant the world to her. It didn’t change the end result, but it made her suffer less while she was alive. That matters.
I hope you can find some peace with all this