I can’t be the only one. Does no one else think sex is just too much work sometimes? Maybe Im lazy?
I have a bit of an issue with the ‘want frequency’ with my fiance. She would be happy with constantly almost and I am happy with maybe once a week or once every 10 days even. Frankly, I could go longer and be fine.
Seriously, it’s all cool and in to say “yeah, sex Id have it all the time if I could! Sex sex, sexity sex.”
But the reality is, at least for me, at 52 I dont want that frequently. Its like a lot of freaking work.
I’m far less interested in sex now than I was 10 years ago.
I find it normal to enjoy sex and I find it normal to get tired of it too.
I’ve noticed some people are dreading sex abstinence, due to either a lack of partner or low libido. As if their life was in danger or something.
I’m mostly zen about it.
I don’t know — as a young person, there are days when I want it every day, and other times I just want to breathe. Personally, I think everyone’s libido is very unique — what works for one person might not work at all for another.
In my case, it’s very much connected to the man beside me — if I feel safe, calm, and emotionally good with him, then oh wow! But if things aren’t great… I even avoid being touched.
This aspect I’m describing is something that tends to be more typical for women.
What I mean is — from what I’ve read, for men, sex isn’t as strongly tied to emotions.
Honestly, it’s a bit strange for me to read that there are people who can’t go without it at all — hypersexuality seems stranger to me than asexuality.
When someone changes partners every day, that already feels like a certain kind of pathology.
Aphrodisiac’s in general might help. I’m 33 and it’s solely dependent on the person I’m hooking up with and how attracted I am to them. There’s people I’ve been with where we would go days or weeks between sessions and that was fine and people where it was every day several times a day and that was fine. The relationships I’m in are much more casual though and if I don’t feel like having sex I have no problem saying no.
Sex is always on my mind especially when I see or talk to a beautiful girl. But I don’t passionately pursue girls to have sex unless they take interest in me.
It’s tragic how yuck it can be.
I’ve been molested and raped and not experienced much moments of sexual chemistry (5 minutes my whole life all up perhaps )
Some have such hateful agressive nasty energy that destroys and is putrid …
Instead of cherish n precious.
Most sex I’ve had with boyfriends has sucked a bit too.
I want good energy of who we are and true eye presence and intimacy and connection and love making but my body mostly feels “like meat “ holy body I have but I don’t feel I’m present in it much and suffer n feel like essence sucked out of me by nasty ones etc
I had a x who didn’t have much sex because he has nerve damage and that was awesome relationship he was so manly and calm and let me exist and breathe and feel like myself with him we did things like garden together instead .
We would go four months without sex easy.
Sometimes I feel like there’s others in my body and my partners body like woman malicious acting as me and him in our bodies n not giving us “real us n awesome sex”.
Loyalty love care and other things much more important than sex .
I had chemistry with a man for a minute once it was masculine energy but not agressive or toxic masculine.
He had his belt on me bum few times but passionately not to belittle or degrade .respectfully it seemed and intensely but not in bad way .was a sexy minute !hot!
I thought his energy was a Melanor är time in other bod who later may have been a horrible guy.
I had chemistry with maybe four people my whole life only lasted minute.
“ holy body I have but I don’t feel I’m present in it much and suffer n feel like essence sucked out of me by nasty ones etc
