Like there’s someone I love but I’m finding it painful loving them but that doesn’t stop me cos it would be worse if I didn’t love them.
Idk.
I’m no philosopher
But just my thoughts.
Any one else have thoughts on this?
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This is regarding a family member.
It aint another romance lmao…
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It’s only painful cos they want nothing to do with me.
But to be honest it’s a manageable pain.
Cos I love them
It’s a flexible and cautious unconditional love I have and I’m happy to have it
Just don’t go all Romeo and Juliet on us, Mae. Think Benvolio and the maid instead. 
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I don’t know story number 2
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Love hurts sometimes. Some self-inquiry might help though. Maybe ask yourself why the love hurts. Is there something you identify with or a concept you are tying your identity up in? A lot of the times when love has hurt me it’s because I refused to let go.
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Well Benvolio is basically the chef, of course he knows how to wield a sharp pointy object. He tells Mercutio not to fight Tybault, but nobody takes him seriously, and he’s just hanging around to see Juliet’s maid.
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I have this for myself so why shouldn’t I have it for others. It seems only fair.
And thank you for talking to me last night while I was going through that. That was nice of you 
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Meh, I loved once, got hurt, never loved again. I never thought that relationship would end, but it did. Outgrew my naivety.
I’m not saying I wont love again but I doubt it, or if I do I think it will be different. I’ve met or seen plenty of attractive women but I don’t find myself falling in love with them. Ive learned to be happy single.
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What oh. OK you not interested in dating?
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Oh really. Well this person doesn’t want to talk to me but I’ve not blocked them. Blocking them would be letting them go truly. But then if they change their mind and I’ve blocked them…
That’s why I just leave the door open for this family member
I guess I should let go in the meantime yes
Ahh no problem that’s what we are all here for!
Wow you really solved my problem well. I just need to let go of that person. But with a door open.
Thankyou 
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No, I’ll date, but I don’t think I’ll love like I did the first time.
But no one wants to date me anyways, schizo and all…
I’ve been on bumble since November. 90% of the women who swipe right on my photo do so without reading my profile, then I write them a message, THEN they read my profile, see I have schizo, and delete me.
I’ve met 4 women that got to know me, like we hang out and stuff, and they don’t care I have schizo, but it’s not romantic.
Given my experience I expect to be single the rest of my life, and most days Im fine with that, it’s just been so long since I’ve been in a relationship but you never know, I might end up in a relationship one day, I just doubt it.
It’s been my experience women are extremely turned off by schizo, I’m lucky I found 4 cool women that like to hang out and do stuff.
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That’s a good start.
Yes don’t cling to the idea of romance maybe, but leave the door open, maybe… Sounds healthy. Maybe you need to perhaps have more in real life exposure to women so they really see you for who you are. Such as meet ups and such.
I’m on pof and I get barely any attention that’s as someone who doesn’t even mention schizophrenia.
It is a difficult world
I still have faith I’ll meet Mr soulmate one day.
But it’s actually impossible at the moment as I need to learn to feel at ease in my body so that I can be sexually and romantically free. Also because I want to become more mature first. So that I attract someone similar.
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LMAO, the door has been open for 20 years, no one has walked through.
Just to be clear I haven’t been “friend zoned” by these women, like I joke and say flirty things sometimes, it’s all cool. It’s just not a relationship with any of them, not like that.
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Sounds like you’re having a good time with them!! Glad to hear it,
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