It’s making me really question my behavior.
Does anybody here have NPD and wanna talk about what it’s like?
Narcissist’s aren’t usually worried about being narcissists so my guess is you’re not one.
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Thats me
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Thats not true and it’s something that people say about schizophrenia as well. People are surprisingly capable of recognizing that something is wrong.
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I think you are right, based on the fact that everyone has a brain. How we so easily categorise people nowadays is dangerous. Don’t dehumanise yourself by looking for labels if it’s unnecessary I think.
What makes you think you have NPD?
I realized that the single most powerful motivating factor in my life is social recognition from other people but no amount of it ever feels satisfying so i constantly force myself into social situations regardless of whether i want them just so i can be seen by other people and replay memories of everything i did and said. And when that fails i resort to self destructive behavior to relieve the feeling that im not special.
Im not worried about categorizing myself, im worried about figuring out why im always unhappy so i can figure out how to get out of this cycle.
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That can be seen as a bad habit and addressed. It is a narcissism by definition but it doesn’t mean you are a bad person at all or deserve to be classed as a narcissist, and be recognised as one by people who have no right to judge.
Certain things can trigger it, for me the internet and forums bring out the worst in me for some reason.
Do you recognise any patterns or things you could avoid that might help?
Remember just because the world is full of arseholes doesn’t mean that their reflection should make you second guess yourself, just be self aware
That is tereble. I had some self distructive actions myself, even at that time did not felt that way. It was not due to the lack of social recognition, was more of some sorts of experiments I’ve done with my body. That made me feel special, but I was in the wrong.
Sorry for what you go trough. Trying to live up the social pressure could be very hard.
Were you eager for attention?
@rhizome , do you have compassion for anyone else? Do you care about other people’s feelings? Do you have empathy for others? Do you think there are people who are your equal or better than you?
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I took this test and it said I had “mild narcissism”
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I got moderate. Lol.
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same here. I just took the quiz. Avery Anna - Narcissist (Lyric Video) - YouTube
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I got no narcissism but I think it’s a little skewed as I take the questions literally and can’t think how else they would present in my life
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I was very lonely and avoidant as a teenager. I hated everyone around me for not paying attention to me so i would avoid them as much as i could and i hated myself for being alone. I spent a lot of time online and i also made a lot of music and poetry to try to cope with that.
I have friends now and i socialize frequently but i still dont feel any different internally. I still dont feel satisfied with what i get out of other people and it makes me feel inadequate.
I think part of it is sza because i doubt peoples intentions and i assume theyre lying to me but i think that theres a pathological need for validation from others which is more central to the problem.
Yes i have people in my life who i really care about and i actually have a tendency to cause myself pain due to overempathizing with people who are worse off than i am. But the empathy doesnt go the other way. I dont often feel good when things are going well for other people. There are exceptions to that, but theyre pretty rare.
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I dont trust psychology tests like that because they tend to oversimplify complex phenomena.
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Do you feel like you’re better than others? Do you feel superior to others?
I’m just finding it hard to believe that a narcissist would care. I’d think they’d be happy they could just manipulate others and always get what they want
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Not all narcissists are malignant narcissists. Covert narcissists dont manipulate people and are usually more avoidant. Im personally not interested in doing that and i never have. But anyway im not so interested in categorizing myself, im more interested in identifying unhealthy behavior and finding ways of correcting it.
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