I tell him I do it because I think I’m ashamed. He has 4 young kids under 6 and I think if he knew I was really crazy he would disown me although I have know him since I was 13 and we are really close. He has never seen the full extent of my illness and with the things he has seen its become normal to him so he even himself doesn’t think there is anything wrong with me, My behaviour has become normal kinda?. I just feel ashamed because I don’t want him to think I’m a danger to his kids.
I’m sorry to say this but I think you’re wrong in lying to your friend. I think you should come clean, the sooner the better. Hopefully he will love and accept you just the same.
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I have had schizoaffective disorder 7 years. I don’t know how I can tell him I have it after I have been telling him I have faked it all this this for disability benefits. If I can con him this amount of time do you think I should still tell him. I have no risk to people in my risk assessments (UK)
I’m really sorry about this, but he sounds like a terrible friend. I would be honest if I were you, if he reacts like this, you know he’s a big piece of ■■■■ and he’s not worth your time.
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I would still think that you are ‘crazy’ also because many schizophrenics with no insight use to say the same thing.
what kind of a person fakes a disease to get money? What must he think of you? He thinks your a liar anyway, and a cheat, a loser? Tell the truth. Tell him you were ashamed and you were scared to lose him. At least he’ll know you’re not scam artist and a low life. He may just accept your illness and be there for you and you could continue your friendship based on trust and honesty. Then you will actually have a best friend. Because right now your so-called best friend is nothing but an acquaintance who barely sees into your world.
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I find it difficult not to reply to your post. This plays into my insecurities about if I have really faked it after being involuntarily hospitalised 11 times since 2010. Could I be faking it and hiding it anybody.
@bobbilly. Just tell your friend what you told us—that you actually do have sza and that you didn’t tell him the truth because you were worried that it might effect your friendship.
Since you’ve been friends for so long, I’m thinking that he may already know the truth.
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I think that that your friend probably already knows that your not faking and that your just making stuff up to stay his friend. I mean really , does he really think it’s that easy for you to fool drs and hospitals and the disability system? I think it would be very hard to fake it and get disability benefits
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I’m sorry if I triggered your insecurities. I also have those insecurities. I’ve read a ton of posts regarding sza’s saying they still don’t believe their diagnosis. If we all could pinch ourselves and just wake up from this hell we would. But we can’t. And no we are not fooling anyone into believing we have this thing. If you’re anything like me, you spend too much effort tying to convince everyone there’s nothing wrong. My point was would you rather have your friend think you’re cheating the system or a person who just happens to be living with a disability?
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