I still don't know how to deal with the loneliness

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It’s debilitating. Talked to my psychiatrist about housing and called a place, but they don’t respond. Idk why. I’m just so insanely lonely. No hi’s when I get on fb. No friends to hang out with or play games. No gf, obv. All I have are my parents, and while I’m thankful for them, it’s not enough. Brain fog keeps building up, and I just think if I had real friends it’d go away.

Every day I wake up and wish I was dead…I just basically wait t’ill I’m tired to go back to sleep. I’m like a zombie…at least I have as many friends as a zombie.

I had this plan growing up: stay in my room all day making music. That was my master plan, no joke. Saddest thing is, I barely made any music. But I did stay in my room alot, friendless.

I realize now that that was prodrome and neg symptoms…but still…what a plan.

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Perhaps you need to start doing something? Maybe joining a gym or start practicing martial arts?

You mention music? Is there something you can do that revolves around music?

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You can also check in with other people’s threads and spend some more time on the forum.

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Well, I mean you got all the problems defined and labeled. Now the obvious next step is to take action. Take a risk. Go somewhere, do something. Do you have transportation? No ones going to come knocking on your door to make friends with you, you have to seek them out. There might be some kind of social worker that comes to your house to spend time with you.

For example when I was in-between jobs in the 1980’s some agency would send out someone to spend time with you, maybe take me out to coffee. I applied to have one of them come to my house but since I could take a shower and dress myself I was too high functioning to qualify for one of those.

NAMI has offices around the country I believe. The one near me had something called a “peer pal” where I would go to NAMI offices and they would pair me up with someone who was having a good recovery and we would meet once a week and do something fun for two or three hours. And we could call each other. That lasted 8 weeks, I did it three times with three different people and we went to the beach or to the park or to the museum or out to eat or shot pool. At the end of 8 weeks we could decide if we still wanted to be friends and get together on our own.

I had a case worker who used to meet with me at Starbucks or the college cafe and we would talk and have coffee. These may be just in my area but they are ideas that you may have similar things in your area. Take a class, go to church. Join walking group. Again, NAMI has support/social groups.

You sound like you have plenty of time to plan your next move, it’s up to you. I’m taking my own advice and will join a walking group soon and I’m getting a new case manager.

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I was depressed and lonely when I was young. But today I enjoy being lonely. Sometimes I go out for beers, that’s it.

@hiimphil needs to start doing something. Is there an underlying problem stopping him from going out and talking to people, then he needs to do something about it.

I have issues with shyness/anxiety but I didn’t do anything about it when I was young.

@hiimphil is still young, he has a lot going on for him. He just needs to take the right actions.

What are you interested in @hiimphil?

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Do you have symptoms that make it difficult for you to be friends with people once you’ve made them or is this only a question of finding them in the first place?

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yeah well i live remote (on a farm atm) and i have all the neg symtoms and some positive ones

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A living remote is going to lead to certain realities you don’t have any options have you considered moving out of your house or do you really need to live with your parents? You could go to a city potentially? Jobs make you friends almost instantly. Just look for a job with people ur age.
You can also be more active on thr forum to feel less lonely. I only have 2 friends i talk to, and very few more than that. Friendship can be a challenge
But the forum clearly helps a lot of people
It certainly helps me

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Which drugs are you on?? And are you taking them as prescribed?

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uuuhm im on lurasidone lol why?

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yeah i realized that not taking ur meds is a big no no a few months ago

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Hmm, if the drug isn’t working you need to change it!

Have you tried abilify or vraylar? They are more activating!

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I used to live remote. I still had a small community of online friends.

You don’t have to wait for a hi or hello when you get online. Reach out and say hi. If you have no one to say hi to, determine why that is.

Do you have online friends? If not, make some. Reach out to people here and have discussions on the main board. PM with like minded folks. From there it can blossom into really good and strong friendships.

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Ok, I think you need to focus on getting better first. Perhaps you need some time before the meds start doing the trick!?

Try not to think about loneliness atm. You are struggling and have an illness. That’s your first priority.

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yeah, well ive been on lurasidone for only a week, and apperently u need 6 until u see the effects (apart from stopping psychosis)

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i tried a job a few months ago, didnt go well. but its true that the people were nice, and even friendly. probbly coudlve made a friend if i stayed.

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Yeah, as I said best is to think about getting better first. Finding the right meds etc.

I know it’s hard, you are young and want to have some fun and meet new people.

Try to do something for the time being. Do you play video/computer games?

Or do you play an instrument?

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That sounds good to me! All right so it didn’t go well the first time but you should try again and I think that is a good way to make friends at your age

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I see on your profile that you are into chess that’s cool do you play chess with people online?

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yes but its like league of legends…it can be extremly toxic lol

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