Title. I have been alone for 7 years and talking to people isn’t my thing
Hi welcome to the forums.
I’m a little unusual in that I’m very social. Still. I enjoy my alone time but it’s not a bad thing interacting with other humans. If you don’t have family things like sports, games or hobbies are ways of meeting like minded people. Otherwise there’s plenty of internet forums out there these days.
I go to the local clubhouse (drop in-center for people with mental illness). I used to be very lonely but started going there, eventually learning other member’s names and joining in conversations and activities. It wasn’t easy at first cuz I was really shy, but now I know that it really helped me to make friends there…
Loneliness doesn’t bother me anymore. Sure, I would love to date a woman. But my lifestyle doesn’t allow it due to negatives. Also I’m very lazy on top of that. I weigh my lifestyle as more important because it doesn’t stress me out, which is good for my mental health. Having relationships means that you are obliged to do sh-it. Wich I don’t want to do! So basically having any relationship flies out the window.
You don’t mention why you are lonely? Is it sz? Anxiety? Introversion or shyness? Lack of self- confidence?
Welcome to the forum btw!
haha its all of the above. i cant believe i have sz but yeah here i am
If that’s you on the picture then you seem young and good looking. You have time to work on yourself. Do you have a therapist?
i had a psychiatrist but apparently if u dont go to a meeting once i cancels on him, he lets u go…so i dont have him anymore…and i tried therapy b4 but not with my official schizophrenic diagnosis
Ok! I would advice you getting therapy! Perhaps talking about your issues will help?
There are alternatives like medication, CBT etc.
I would do it myself but in my country there is an epidemic regarding mental health so the only option is going private but it costs a fortune, money I don’t have.
Don’t be afraid to reach out.
Also are you medicated for your Sz? It took me a long time before I found the right meds.
I don’t like mixing with people much or talking to them and I especially hate having to make eye contact. I practiced doing it anyhow and am at the point of passing for normal when needed, although it wears me down if I do it for too long.
Welcome to the community!
I’ve been isolated for 12 years and im not good at communication in conversation. But i socialize online. That’s how i deal with it.
im prescribed olanzapine, but. honestly i dont see the difference between when i take it and when i dont, except i get fat when i take it. i told my doctor i feel fine and it helps but im lying
I’m on olanzapine 20mg and have gained a lot of weight. But it’s the only med that helped.
Keep taking your meds. You don’t want to go down that rabbit hole with untreated Sz. Trust me, it only gets worse when you are unmedicated.
I can totally relate. There’s something about eye contact that makes me think I’m an open book. After all, don’t they say that the eyes are the windows into your soul?
Why lie to your pdoc? You’re never going to get any help that way! Tell them what you told us. That olanzapine is not helping and that it is only causing weight gain which is absolutely unacceptable to you. Tell your pdoc you want to try a more weight neutral med.
I make a compromise. And have mainly watsapp friends instead of f2f friends it makes a good difference. They also know about my anxiety and that I’m Not sure if I can meet at some point, though I really hope so but don’t wanna put pressure on it. Cos that makes it worse.
Hope you get to feeling less lonely. Low self esteem is not easy to combat.
i’m the same, i have to listen to music to pass time and avoid feeling lonely. otherwise i just write to myself in the notes app to see if my mood rises after writing out how i feel
Welcome, I like being by myself. I figure if you can’t enjoy life being alone you wont be able to really enjoy life with other people.
I too been the same and struggling to talk to people. Now I am trying to come out of the nest.
I am a loner but I dont feel alone. I have the internet. I go to the mini mart every morning where I have to pass people. I have my mom around. Maybe loneliness is something you get used to.
I am alone because I scared everyone away. It is my desire to have a band. I play guitar and mandolin. I don’t know anyone at present who plays an instrument. I hate being alone. I feel it’s a positive step to start seeing my therapist in person. I’ve adapted very slowly to being alone but I don’t think it’s right to admire that. I’ll admit to people it’s not right. I was self abusive.