Good posts here. What helped me was this mind shift: “I am my own worst enemy”. Nowadays I always try to look trough that lens, because too much time has been wasted on being a victim. Too many people focus too much on the external, I know I did. Happiness doesn’t have much to do with outside circumstances. Since I’ve been focusing on trying to uncover the hidden(but in plain sight) negative loops and thought patterns I get into, things have been going better.
Commit to being a life long learner. And I don’t mean history, biology or physics here, though it’s fine if you’re interested in them. I mean reading books about practical psychology, self help, success, successful people’s autobiographies etc. Many people say those books don’t work and are a waste of time, but those people rarely gave the book(s) a good shot, did the exercises and really committed to changing their habits. There are some good youtube channels also that have been popping up. Some good books: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Mastery by George Leonard, Channel: actualized.org
And I don’t mean success here for the sake of being successful, nowadays you see a lot of people hustling and they’re not even happy, they hustle for the sake of hustling and post things on social media almost bragging about how tough they’re on themselves. Don’t be in an adversarial relationship with yourself. We are taught that you need discipline and constantly being hard on yourself to succeed and be happy, I find this not to be true. Positive motivation always beats negative motivation, rather than thinking what will happen if you don’t do something think what will happen if you will, for example.
Things to also look into: affirmations, creating a personal mission statement, cleaning up your diet(not just for weight loss), yoga, meditation(only IF you can, meditation can be dangerous for schizophrenics and it is dangerous for me so I don’t do it), mindfulness etc.
There’s so much more I could write but I don’t want to make this too long. The last thing I want to had is that more than the low motivation of sz, what prevents/ed me from getting into personal development, bettering myself and becoming authentic and happy was resistance. And this goes for a lot of things in life, that where u feel the most resistance is where you should “go”. So let’s say you feel a lot of resistance about opening up, showing vulnerabilities and being authentic, for example. That means that that’s what you need to work on the most, to be happy, I use resistance as a compass. What you resist, persists.
TL, DR: don’t wait for outside circumstances to change or put your life on hold until the next wonder drug comes out, be proactive while at the same time not forcing things.