Her dog that she had for 15 years died just about 6 or 7 months ago. I loved her dog, she was cute and friendly and affectionate and full of energy.
My sister grieved for awhile but she got a new dog about 4 months ago. This new dog is nothing like my sisters old dog. My sister is cute and outgoing and bubbly and young looking even at age 61. And so her and her old dog were a perfect match. This poor new dog is frightened of everybody. He is friendly to my sister and maybe loving but I’ve been seeing him for four months now and he is scared of me and the rest of the family and strangers.
I have never showed anything but friendliness and patience with the new dog but every time I see him he just cowers and never wags his tail. It’s obvious that he was mistreated by someone down the line but this is the most dog-loving family you will meet and no one had been anything but kind to him.
I am housesitting now and it’s a small apartment and he is cowering in the corner by himself even though I have gone out of my way to be kind and non-threatening. He is so unlike my sisters previous dog. but the family can’t say anything. My sister sees how he is around us but she is in denial and thinks he will get better but after zero change for 4 months it’s obvious he will not get better and my sister is committed to keeping him.
So she might have him for the next 10 or 15 years. I go out of my way to be friendly and pet him and put him at ease but I am tired of walking on eggshells around him to make sure I don’t scare him.
To me, the whole purpose of dogs are to be friendly and be there to be petted and played with. There is none of those things in him. I’m not trying to be mean or heartless but my sister will never give him up because they have a bond but I can see this situation could cause trouble in the family.