I realized I can't be there when my mom passes away

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It would be too hard on me and it would probably trigger psychosis. It would also not be fair to my dad to deal with me also. I talked to my family about it including my mom and it is okay they understand. It doesn’t mean I am a coward it just means I care.

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I would reconsider, but no business of mine to say

I know it would be hard

you would just think she’s on a long vacation

so sorry for you, honey

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I’m sorry. That’s a hard thing to have to decide. Will you have a support system near you to help with your grief?

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Yeah my family.

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@Daze someone told me that I should reconsider also but I can’t do it. It would take me over the edge to a place where there is no return. I couldn’t do that to my dad.

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It’s perfectly OK to choose either to be there or not or even to change your mind several times as you think about it. It’s a personal choice. Your mom knows you love her which is the important thing.

My mom and I took care of my dad at home for 6 weeks (home hospice care) until he passed away. While my mom and I were comfortable with this, my brother was not comfortable with being there at the time of passing. Everyone has their own way of dealing with a loved one’s passing and that is OK.

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Thanks for being understanding @Moonbeam

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That’s ok @dougRN.
Your family understands.

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Thanks @Wave. I am so happy people don’t think of me as a coward

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You are not a coward.
You are preventing yourself from getting psychotic.
There is a difference.

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Yeah I know I just can’t stay for my own wellbeing as well as my dads.

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I guess daze’s post was removed

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There are other ways to say good bye. I was in class when my mom died. Finding her was the worst experience of my life.

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My mom died in the hospital. I wasn’t there. I was at my dad’s house it was Wednesday March 17,1990. I was just a little kid

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I am sorry to hear that.

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Aww. Thank you. It was a long time ago. I was 13. After she died I developed an eating disorder. I just couldn’t cope

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I need to be prepared to cope with my moms loss I am trying to take steps forward

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What’s up with your mom @dougRN?

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She has terminal cancer

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Sorry to hear damn. That’s tough.

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