I realized I can't be there when my mom passes away

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Why was daze flagged

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Thanks @Jonnybegood

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I knew she was dying yet I still wasn’t prepared. I guess you should tell her that you love her. Other than that I don’t think you can prepare

I was physically sick at mommy’s funeral

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My mom died in 2010. I lived too far away to even make it to her funeral. I was pregnant and my doc wouldn’t let me fly

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Thanks @Loke 1515

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I am sorry to hear that

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She said something about death that could trigger a bad response. I saw it.

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I see. I probably shouldn’t ask what it said.

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Yep. It was kinda gruesome though I don’t think she meant any harm

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Just don’t feel as if you simply must be there. She understands. I am sure.

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Thanks @anon4362788 you are always a compassionate person

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Same at you. @Loke

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Alright talk to you guys later I got class.

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You need to do what’s right for you and your state of mind and health. They understand…

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Remember @dougRN - by considering your mom dying and talking with us here about it, you have already started the grieving process. You are stronger than you think and can deal with more than you give yourself credit for - you just don’t realise it yet. It will be horrid when it happens, but let’s face it, life is horrid in many ways as well; we will lose everyone we love eventually, and if we don’t lose them, they will lose us.

Sometimes it’s good to realise the transient nature of all things on earth, and to realise that despite all the dark times, life is incredibly beautiful too. Death is also not as ugly as people think - it’s a chance to celebrate the life that each person had. Take care my friend.

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Do what is best for you. I’m glad your family has a good understanding. We all deal with loss in our own way. You love your mom. That what counts. You are definitely not a coward. I hope when the time comes you feel the support from your family and us here on the forum.

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I wasn’t there when my mom died. My sister was. She said it was terrible and a bad memory for her. Some people just can handle those types of things better. I didn’t want to see my mom die. I’m glad I wasn’t there.

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sorry about your mum doug, terminal cancer is horrible, my ex has just been given that news as well, she is being very brave :frowning:

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