My daughter brought her boyfriend over 2 nights ago. After they were only here about 5 minutes, I started asking him how his job was going, what kind of broker he was etc. my husband said it was like poking him in they eyes with 2 fingers. I was genuinely curious but asked way too soon into the conversation according to my husband. I don’t think I’ll ever have good social skills. It’s really amazing that I have friends at all.
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I’m sure you were just fine. Don’t be so hard on yourself. 
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Thanks @GrayBear. But my husband made a point to tell me it wasn’t good to ask that right away. I get told I’m too quiet, but if I open my mouth I make a fool of myself.
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I don’t know. I think your husband might be over reacting a bit. Those are good questions.
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I’m super socially awkward, too. I assure you, I’ve made worse social blunders than you.
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lol, I’m not laughing at you, it’s just I feel exactly the same way. But your questions seem perfect to me. Expressing interest in someone’s career and asking questions to show that interest seems normal to me. The only problem I could see with it is if he was being shy and was no engaging in the conversation and then it turned into a grilling session. Then you might have wanted to stop. But that would have been on him for not being a good conversationalist.
He was answering and not being shy so I thought it was ok but it wasn’t.
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At least you showed a positive interest making him feel welcomed. As oppose to a cold stare.
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I don’t see anything wrong with asking… you were polite and were making conversation… people will always have something to say…
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I think context is the key in light conversation.
I think in this context it was totally appropriate to ask those questions.
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Ok. Thanks. Maybe it wasn’t so bad after all. I’m just not sure.
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Nah its fine to ask… you were just trying to strike up conversation and showing interest… .my partners parents also asked me these things … please don’t worry you’re good 
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Thanks @anon80629714 1515
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My husband nudges me a lot like a child. Like hey it’s time to maybe wrap it up…cause I’m so socially awkward I don’t speak-ppl think something is wrong. When I finally warm up I apparently over speak or don’t read social cues to stop talking. It’s a damned if I do, damned if I don’t situation. Can I say that here??
I think your question was acceptable- I’m not very good at small talk though to give best advice. It truly baffles me.
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I sometimes am socially awkward when I’m presented with a group of people that are new to me and from a different kind. I usually stay quite or ruin the mood by blurting things out. I am trying to find a common ground with those type of people but its really tough.
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Yeah, I often say things out of left field when I’m nervous. My thoughts go elsewhere and I suddenly bring stuff up out of the blue.
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I’m nervous around new people too.
This is soooo me!!
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