you tell me how to do it…am nervous its Christmas…im able to talk with neighbours but am awful with extended family…brother in law, cousins etc make me nervous
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Go ha a lot and let the normie show go!!! They like when you go ha. And let them talk about themselves. Ask questions about them. Don’t talk bout ur self. Even though you can, it’s much easier and they like it better if you don’t. If you talk make it about science or technology or nature or sports or something like that. Don’t talk about yourself unless you recently got a promotion at work cuz nornies like that stuff. Lol. This post is meant to be kinda a joke. I’m in some kind of mood.
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Karl good to see you
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It’s true, though. Just ask them a few simple questions. “What are you doing with your life? Oh, that sounds interesting, please tell me more! And how do you like that?” Just keep asking them questions about themselves. If they ask you a question, answer it as best as you can. If you don’t feel comfortable answering their question, just say, “Oh, that’s a long story” and they will usually let it drop. If you know a socially appropriate joke or funny story, you can tell it. If you don’t know whether said joke is appropriate, just err on the side of caution and keep it to yourself.
These are the basic rules of positive socialization.
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Socialization with normies gives me nausea.
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- Ask questions.
- Pay attention to what they say and be polite.
- If you can relate to what they say, tell them. But don’t make it all about you.
- If you can make jokes that’s a plus.
- Smile and laugh at appropriate times.
- It’s OK to talk about yourself or your own interests, but not too much and ask yourself if what you want to say is interesting or not.
If in doubt, just ask them a question about their lives.
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dude… a man doesn’t have to engage in any conversation that might trigger him or make him anxious, especially if he has an illness.
in my opinion, conversation-learning is somewhat like a skill that a man learns through experience and practice. just because it’s Christmas, that doesn’t mean that he’s going to become a good conversationalist, simply because he has a strong will. I think it takes time.
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This is very true. It took me many years to learn how to socialize effectively. But the above tips are very good for beginners.
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the passion, to become a good conversationalist, comes and goes with the holidays; some say. 
I’ve said what I had to say, in this thread. I’m out. I don’t want to piss people off unintentionally… 
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