I have never been on a date

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I have never been on a date. I am shy, so I don’t talk enough. I am older now…….so I talk more. I have hope……that I am going to go on a date soon. Is anybody else similar?

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My experience was very different. I had a child quite young and was so convinced that if I didn’t find my forever person immediately that it would never happen. I was lucky and did find my person. Looking back, though, I realize that my insistence that it’s now or never was immature. I was a teenager.

Anyhow, I am hopeful for you and wish you the best of luck.

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I never have any luck with women. I think I’m about to go to a singles group for people with mental illness.

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I don’t know what works for others, but one thing that helps hubby and I is that his mom had MI. He had to help her several times with major problems. I think this has made him more understanding of my issues. Of course, when we got together, we didn’t know I even had problems. But his experiences have certainly helped him navigate the mess that is me.

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Wow, you are lucky. Because your husband understands you.

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He does, to an extent. In regards to our relationship, he’s always been more patient and level-headed than I. Having said that, though, I have super awesome ninja people skills that he doesn’t. We even each other out, I think.

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I had my first date age 23 or 24 back in the short period of time when I had a social life then soon after I went on 2 or 3 more disastrous dates . Then I had no social life or dates for few years then age 30 I went internet dating and ha 2 or 3 more disastrous dates

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Hope you get a date soon. It helps to think of it as just getting to know another person, because that’s basically what you are doing.

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Feels like too many barriers: social anxiety, social status, mental issues…

I also judge people harshly for certain behaviors or things they enjoy/do. So if I do feel like I want to have some fun… I just back out before anything can happen.

Plus, I just don’t know how to manage positive feelings/uncomfortable sensations/new experiences… It’s just too anxiety-inducing.

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@Jake , are you around people you can connect with to find someone to date? Do you go to different places where you can meet people?

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No I am not around people to get a date. No I don’t go to places to get a date.

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Ok. Well that makes it nearly impossible to meet someone. Some people meet others on dating sites, but you’d need to have a car to get to the date. Or you could take a bus and walk some of the way. Just pick places close to the bus stops.

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Good luck with the dating scene. I think you seem like a gentleman. I’m sure there might be just the woman out there for you. :blush:

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Thank you @Zoe…… :grinning:

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I was single for 20 years, and quite happy as a bachelor. Now I have someone in my life, so you never know.

When you do get out on that date, just go easy. Getting to know someone new is awkward for almost everyone, so don’t forget that.

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I only dated women I didn’t like. It didn’t end well. I’m also shy.

I wish I could date but having SZ makes it difficult.

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