She tells everyone what useless piece of sh*t I am and I do nothing. I try my level best. She says I should follow mum around everywhere she goes I case she needs help with shopping. I doubt she cares she just don’t trust mum or anyone. I don’t want to use bad words she’s 95. But god if I had to stay here longer I’d burst.
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Maybe you can hope for an early death?
(I know that’s bad but at least she will be out of your hair)
Old people live meaningless lives so they have to try to control things to get any sort of comfort from things.
Yes that sounds like a brilliant idea an early death would suit me just fine… argh. She is old but doesn’t entitle her to treat me like a piece of ■■■■.
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I honestly feel she hates me and that’s why I can’t feel anything.
She is projecting her problems onto you because she’s older and she can do that. I’ve known and know personally people and myself who have had that same thought as if a older person hates us and then emotions become hard to relinquish and release. But I still love you @anon80629714
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I’m sorry you weren’t being treated well @anon80629714. Please don’t hate yourself. I’ve had flat emotions before, and maybe I still do to an extent. It’s a brain chemistry thing. Maybe there’s meds that can help but it’s definitely not your fault.
I think you’re a cool person.
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The problem is it doesn’t happen with others, just her…
Maybe it’s a defense mechanism? I use to kind of freeze up in the face of hostility.
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i feel i’m old (50’s), and i feel i’ve had my turn. married twice, the first annulled, have brilliant children, grown, have had a lot of opportunities business wise and such (had means, or at least access) and so on.
some elderly don’t like acknowledging, as far as the merry-go-round of life, they’ve ridden all their turns.
some from genuine love try to control to keep the objects of their affection close.
i’m sure many reasons exist for such.
to me the point is, the relationship causes you to feel bad. maybe it is the same for her, maybe not. and fault is no matter.
why does feelings from such a relationship affect you? do you regard the person highly. i sure hope you don’t feel the majority of people would feel about you the same way. check out nursing homes full of elderly people. obviously the masses don’t enjoy visiting them. elderly people can be not only physically needy but draining emotionally as well. i’m guessing they are scared. likely trying to find peace with their conscience. whatever is going on, it doesn’t look appealing.
could you tag along, maybe be helpful, yet emotionally disengage. for the olders i felt were oppressing, i’d appear to listen, yet be thinking, what sort of things could have caused such a needy person. why does that person feel they or their life justifies them leading me anywhere.
more using the time to learn and seek wisdom rather than investing emotionally. obviously you don’t have the extra right now to fill her savings. keep yours in your accounts.
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If she causes too much trouble threaten to put her in a rest home
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Maybe you’re shutting down emotionally because you’re feeling overwhelmed and anxious. Use your PRN and remember to breathe. I hope that helps.
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I can’t do that in our own home 
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That was very mean and judgemental,of her I don’t think people understand just what schizophrenia is like
I hope you don’t let this get to you too much
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It’s bipolar but she doesn’t know what it even is or it exist
Maybe you could tell her?
She doesn’t understand mental illness or that it exist.
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