They keep picking on my sz. They blame me for everything. Even my uncle told me that I don’t need meds and that I can fight sz mentally without meds, bs. I can mask my positive symptoms but not my anger and aggression issues I get off meds. They call me fat, lazy, parasite to society because I can’t work, etc My parents keep talking about me dating and them wanting grand children but I can’t do that either. I can’t even live alone independently.
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They don’t sound very supportive. I’m sorry.
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Ignore the noise
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I am sorry, aziz, you have a hard family, as mine can be too in fact 
I have one ill friend and her family was so supportive, that she has no worries now and lives her life…
My mother can be cool in fact, but she remains negative about my future and doesnt see me as a human being who can have and achieve things even with the illness…
Lets continue our meds though, we should fight our anger and hate too, cause i have them as you 
Try to pardon them. I am like you, very hard family, very tough fate around my violent father, when he was alive…
We can get better, dear, i believe it. No matter that we’ll need even meds for this… But i know, poor family support is very bad for szs… Try to believe in yourself too… Hugs!
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That would get tiring and annoying.
Tell them Appreciate that they care. but no thanks.
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They also want me to be religious and religion trigggers me. My mother wanted to send me to Egypt alone without meds as she heard that there is a priest who does miracles there.
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They think a miracle can cure me without meds. Honestly I think all my family want is to get rid of me.
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I think they care about you, trying to find solutions, although they are not very realsitic. People can say things like that…that you can fight sz mentally without meds. It’s because they don’t understand.
Well…hang in there. Things can get better, but sometimes it’s hard to believe it.
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They do care. They feel helpless too. Its bad for everyone SZ.
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My mom likes to remind me that miracles still happen. I say thats great and all but I cant wait around for that. So I do what I can now.
Your parents care about you and thats the way they know how to try and show it.
Trust me its probably hard for them to see you how you are, they want better for you.
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I’m sorry to hear you aren’t getting the support you need @Aziz . I hope they will start to understand the necessity of meds and support
My mom thought religion could cure me too, and blames my conversion to islam as causing my relapse it sucks
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i live with my parents. my sister and her daughter live down the road. i’m staying in the apartment above the garage. it can be stressful but at least I have some private space. will be moving into my sister’s current place when she moves.
it can be stressful especially as they don’t like me drinking but i did have a good political discussion this morning. they can be good to have around. they are nearly the only connection i have to other humans right now.
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It’s really difficult when someone you love/care about believes that put-downs are a form of motivation.
Couldn’t be further from the truth.
All that does it make one feel more like crap, misunderstood, and sometimes even less motivated to change.
You couple that with a complete lack of knowledge about SZ— plus an unwillingness on their part to learn— and it makes for pretty stressful dynamics.
Somebody might excuse this behavior as “tough love,” but there’s a difference between being a little tough and being flat-out insulting.
From what you’ve said in the past, your parents do help and look after you in many ways, which is great. However, certain people— even certain cultures— can sometimes address one’s personal struggles in harsh and unhelpful ways.
Sometimes it’s hard for people to show empathy for things they can’t relate to, and in order to mitigate their own insecurities on the matter, they can come across as rude and dismissive.
What your family sometimes says and how they sometimes act towards you is not actually because of you @Aziz— it’s a reflection of themselves.
I don’t doubt that they love you and care for you and are good people, but they’ve got their own issues to sort out— just like everyone else does on this planet.
There’s definitely some parallels between your situation and mine, but my mom has really improved a bit after I was awarded disability benefits. It was almost like this lightbulb moment of “oh… Maybe she isn’t alright.”
Nobody’s perfect, but kindness and empathy go a pretty long way in helping someone in their recovery journey.
Keep your head up 
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I’m sorry you go through that. You deserve better. 
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Thanks everyone.
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I hate living with my family too.
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Uncool. Have you explored living in a managed care situation? Would you like some help from other members researching options in your region?
Off-topic here, but @Wave, that new avatar pic… Daaaammmmnnnn.
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@Aziz , Same thing happened to me. Even when I have some positive symptoms they (my family) said - “this is why you called mad.” Means i am not mad or schizophrenic and must behave normally.
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You’re not a parasite. It’s the program people are prescribing. You can’t help it if you weren’t born 100 years from now, when people might be treated properly.
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sorry your family treats you like that
my mom was that way for a long time
she also had a little lightbulb moment when i got accepted to go on government support and disability
then when i was feeling a little better on new meds about 10 years ago i bought her 3 books on sz and pleaded with her to read them
i also asked her to take me to nami meetings that did peer and family
listening to other families she started to open up and realize how ill i was and wasnt just acting out for sympathy
hang in there it can and hopefully will get better
good luck
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