I have always felt second rate to my brother… He’s always been the smart one the one that tested out of his GED classes while I struggled for every grade I got… My brother is now a high up manager of a store (I will not mention the name of the store) while I’m now disabled and unable to even volunteer most days… I use to be the social one now I have a hard time keeping and getting friends… I feel like the failure of the family… Maybe I am… I know I am.
Sorry your feeling down @Twialine . I feel that way sometimes too but life is too short to beat yourself up all the time . Remember, you only live once, and it’s short.
You’re a good person and that matters a lot more than whether or not you can work. Try to hang in there. Do you have a therapist you can talk to?
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My sister was an Honors Student with practically straight A’s throughout high school and college. She worked until she married, and her husband and her have a lot of money. I had a C average in high school and dropped out of college at 19 and went to work.
I worked full time until I came down with SzA. Then I was only able to manage part-time in my aunt-in-law’s convenience store, working as the janitor/stock clerk. I went on disability in 2008.
I don’t really feel down on myself anymore. I just trying to survive right now. The last year or so, I’ve come down with osteoarthritis and have trouble walking. My doctor put me on Meloxicam which has helped greatly.
Don’t feel bad about yourself. You didn’t ask for the Sz.
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Comparison is of the devil Bobby.
My sisters are super successful. I’m happy for them. Life is much easier when you take joy in other peoples successes.
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I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters all doing better than me. I’m glad for them and glad for my own survival.
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No you’re not a failure. I posted the same problem you have 30 min ago. My brothers are making lots of money, driving expensive cars, have houses (one have more than 1 house), have tons of friends, have a gf, etc I was the smartest in my family and an A student in university. Sz took everything away and now I stay in bed all day everyday, just get up to eat and to go to the bathroom.
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I am happy for one brother but not the other. The bad one makes fun of my sz sometimes and calls me a parasite to society and to my parents. He says sz isnt an excuse for lazyness.
My brother is successful, he was just married and bought a house. We exchange gifts on birthdays and Christmas time and I make it a challenge to get him something thoughtful. He has the money to buy it himself so I put extra thought and consideration in picking out a gift for him. In a strange way, it’s bonded us closer than we were growing up.
@Twialine: it’s my opinion that one need not compare with others, especially family. What’s important is that your brother values you and is sympathetic to your situation. I know you lost some weight recently, maybe you can let him know, I’m sure he’ll be happy for you.
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@gene my brother doesn’t even look at me without a look that could kill he absolutely hates me.
@Aziz thanks for saying I’m not a failure
@SunLion I’m glad your family is doing well
@GEDchill glad you can feel that way
@anon54988740 I know I didn’t
@LilyoftheValley I see them for the first time on the 9th
@Bowens thanks
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I’m glad you’ll be working with a therapist. It sounds like you need it
I have a hard time getting and keeping friends now too. It’s the opposite of when I was healthy.
Perhaps you should all move to Tulsa. Ha
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