I feel bad but otherwise I feel paranoid if I do not do this

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I get random people sending me messages on Instagram and while I feel bad doing this, I feel I need to to keep myself safe.

A few years ago someone on instagram i blocked found me on snapchat and asked why i blocked them. It scared me.

Since then, when someone message me, and asked me questions I never answer with the correct answer. Like today the guy asked me my age, i said 45, and asked me for pics etc… i might send them some random couple pic…

I shoudl not do this. But don’t want them finding me i get scared.

I should probably not have a social media account but I love sharing my life with those i care about… but that’s as far as it goes on instagram… if i want to share art its through another anonymous account

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Before anyone says anything I know it’s wrong but I don’t know how else to deter them without getting paranoid they’d find me

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There is nothing wrong with misleading someone being creepy, if someone is being weird to you, lie all you want. If it gets them out of your way, there is no harm done.

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I have lied so badly, my kid is 15, i live in some different countries i can think of , i am married etc… it really creepy when someone message me and ask my whole life details and won’t take no… i can block them but they will try finding me somehow… maybe i am being overly paranoid

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I mean if I were you I would just block them. I know it has happened before where they found you but I cant see that happening a lot.

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I will try block them rather than answer i find it mean blocking but i guess i will have to… so they get the message…

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I dont think theres anuthing wrong with it. But i think telling them straight out and even being a little mean is a better way. It sounds like your anticipating why there talking to you and what they want. And then you answer with an assumption that you think will make them get disinterested. Their playing a game and when your not honest your playing along. Dont be scared to be blunt and just tell them you dont know them and dont want to talk to them. And dont be surprised if they apologize. But dont play along with the apology either.

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I know it is dishonest and I need to stop. I always start with I don’t recognise you sorry maybe you are looking for someone else. then it goes on from there most just want to be friends… i need to learn to be more assertive and blunt.

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I think what you’re doing is fine. Don’t worry about it.

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Yea if you don’t want someone’s company I agree, just be assertive and blunt. You can do it.
I think it’s the best way.
I don’t think there’s a need to lie that’s just my personal view though

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