I can’t let go of my failed opportunities either, @everhopeful. I’m sorry that you feel that way and I would wish for you to not feel that way, but I do understand.
I’m doing a job that’s satisfying and that definitely helps bury the memory of all the hope, plans and opportunity that crumbled away, but it seeps back up to the surface.
I remind myself that I’ve done as much as I could… I encourage myself to do as much as I can each day.
I’ve so often been encouraged by your wisdom and understanding, @everhopeful. You have a different purpose than you imagined for yourself, but you do have a purpose.
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I feel the same way. I got my degree, but skipped a lot of classes, and didn’t think I could get an internship, to become certified. It’s not that big of a deal to have a degree, now a days. You shouldn’t feel like a failure.
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Thanks @Hedgehog .
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You can give up your life for something new doesn’t matter that you will not be best but you will occupy yourself have goal and dream and you will be happier
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I can relate. I got chucked out with a low grade point average. Truthfully I was struggling with at least serious untreated depression. I don’t really regret it because I didn’t stand a chance at completing an arts degree with my mind at the time.
If I ever had money I wouldn’t mind just going back and doing a couple of subjects just to see how I’d do. It would be interesting!
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don’t feel bad @everhopeful I did graduate in architecture only to have my career yanked away from me when I got sick at 35. we all got ripped off…better to accept it and move on…don’t think you’re a p.o.s. you are a hero for putting up with this life as a schizophrenic.
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by that metric like 99% of the world population are people of ■■■■
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Have you ever thought about pursuing a degree in something else? Something maybe less taxing than engineering as you said cognitively that’s just not on the table for you anymore? Maybe even just going for an associate’s? Even if it’s online? Also there are wonderful disability accommodation services available now. I wish I would’ve known about them earlier in college. I had many issues with concentration and only my senior year of college found out that they offered note taking services. Saved my butt and greatly boosted my grades because I just couldn’t do lecture style teaching. You can even get extended exam times and things like that.
If no to these things then I agree very much with ninja & want to add on that a degree doesn’t correlate with your value, though you may feel that way. I’d also like to add that I feel you are of great value to this forum 
You have helped ground me and bring me back to reality and realize I needed a greater level of treatment/med adjustment/to get back on meds more times than I can think of. So you’re valuable to me. Gosh even tearing up typing this.
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This doesn’t have to be the end. My husband took over 20 years to finish his Bachelor’s degree. Now he is working on his Master’s and will have it in December. He did it, though. He is 47.
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I dropped out of highschool. I always regretted that. I went back to school as an adult with 3 kids and got my degree in Nursing and became an RN. It really boosted my self-esteem. I also found I was more motivated than most of those coming straight out of highschool. BUT it has never fully filled that void. I remain a highschool drop out with all the shame that comes with it.
I don’t know your situation. I hope you can find something to help fill the void.
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Really love this story. Give him my whole-hearted congratulations and admiration.
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