Please tell me how hard it is raising a child, im so broody right now
Dont want a child
Dont want a child 
We watch my ex brother in laws son once in awhile. I wouldnt want to do it for too long myself. SOme people are made for kids, I guess, others are not.
Itâs definitely not for me at my age.
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Children are a lot of work, from babyhood into adulthood. You must be mentally stable to raise kids.
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Ive been up all night , happens but ive googled everything to do with pregnancy, toddlers tonight i mean put a lot into reading about it all, im just so broody. I think its because i am nearly over the hill, past it lol
Yeah giving them back after a couple hours is the best bit hehe
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Yes unfortunately im not mentally stable and its just a fantasy ugh sigh
Will have to concentrate on losing weight instead, im busy enough, couldnât cope with too many things
Babysit a toddler for 48 hours. I guarantee youâll be rethinking having a kid, like ever.
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Being a woman and raising kid is a lot of work and sacrifice. Being a man and raising kid is same but have to adjust to the kid and help kid in a way that woman is able to do. But it is more tough. I am letting myself calm down and see what can be done to raise a kid in spite of having mental health issues.
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Yes 
i am crazy thinking of this, i know
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And like most of us you never know with this mi from day to day if your going to have break though symptoms from triggers or stress. I would really think hard on this. Imo
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My 2 year old is full on. I hate to say it but if i knew how hard it would be when he hit 2 i would not have got pregnant again.
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@anon55031185 mentioned mentally stable, and itâs so true. Since they drive you nuts, you have to start at a level of not crazy.
I can honestly say that I have hurt my kids so many times because of MI that they donât have any trust in me at this point. It is sad and breaks my heart. I cannot change my MI, though, and I also cannot change the fact that I have children, all of who were born before my diagnosis. I love them so, so much, and I donât know that they even know that (yes, I tell them, but actions speak louder than words). They donât remember me from when I decorated birthday cakes, took them to the movies, made dinner for the whole family every night. My oldest, who is most likely to remember, says she doesnât recall a time where I wasnât in bed constantly. Thatâs rough since I even did things with her like take her to visit colleges six years ago. But all she remembers of me is this shell that the MI has left. Kids are great, but they donât deserve what I (and likely many others on the boards) have to offer. You may want them⊠but can you handle non-stop going for the 18+ years that they will need from you? Turns out I couldnât.
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I think youâre being hard on yourself. My parents werenât perfect either. Still I realize that they love me and that is what is most important.
Iâm sure you love your kids.
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Unfortunately, Iâm not. Yes, I love them very, very much, so much I donât always know what to do with it all. Iâve missed out on a lot and am still doing so, though.
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Sometimes women get a big hormonal push to have babies.
Itâs evolution.
Iâm pretty sure it happens until you hit menopause.
Then a lot of women grieve because theyâve lost fertility.
Being a woman is hard.
Having a baby totally sucks.
They cost so much money,
They need your constant attention,
And they drain your resources and very soul until the day you die.
Theyâre amazing!
Itâs just not fun if you have literally anything else going on in your life.
Babies put a full stop to you,
And they begin.
Itâs basically the end of your life as you know it.
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Im really sorry that youâre going through this. It isnât your fault, its the schizophrenia. Your doing the best you can and im sure your kids will appreciate you and love you a million times over.
I miss having a little in my home. I enjoy my life now, but I loved it when my daughter was around seven years old. A very magical time as she was becoming her own person, but still needed my help doing it. I wish you could borrow seven-year-olds for an afternoon to play and have adventures with to get the magic back. Only occasionally of course - kids that age are energy vampires.
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My oldest daughter was (and still can be) pretty nasty. Lots of name calling both to my face and to her friends; âbipolar b****â was one of the less offensive ones. I felt sick when sheâd come home from school because I never knew what she had in store for me. She did not do this to hubby.
My other kids arenât verbally aggressive like that. There is no yelling or shouting. But my youngest told me she used to run and hide if I was in the living room or downstairs. Not the greatest motivator to get out of bed nowâŠ
Sounds very difficult, do you stay in bed lately still? Does your hubby do most things to help you?
Your eldest daughter is probably just at a difficult age, hormones etc
IdkâŠi havenât even had any children and my hubby has to do most things now like cooking and cleaning
I do stay in bed, mostly because itâs so physically difficult to move around. We were going to head to The Meg 2 today, but we canât find our theater gift card. 
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If you donât mind me asking, why do you find it difficult moving?