Idk why, probably the sz as I wasn’t like that before sz.
When I had more energy I hanged out with friends who were social, I felt different, left behind like if they are my guide but I can’t communicate with them. They kept telling me why I don’t talk and that stresses me even more. Now my brother’s gf is downstairs, I don’t want to see her, she talks a lot as she is social, smiling and laughing loudly etc
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I meant on Abilify.
You are right. Social people take a lot of energy. 
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Exactly what I wanted to say.
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My mother thinks I am shy but I think its the sz as I am 32y.o.
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I’ve got people try to introduce me to other people and i just don’t know what to say, sometimes i even laugh out of nervousness.
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I think I understand.
I find I’m quiet with really social people. I’m just not outgoing. I never have been. I want to be like really social people who have a lot of friends because it always looks like they’re having fun. I have a few friends. I don’t see them a lot. I don’t have any close friends. Being with my husband is usually fulfilling enough.
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Same for me, actually its been a year we haven’t hanged out, only video chat, because of my negatives. Also these friends are somewhat like me, not social, lol
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I used to have social friends but I left them as they stressed me too much.
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You mean extroverted people are tiring to be with? Yeah i agree. Im kind of a mix of extro and intro.
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Not necessarily, I mean social ppl.
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I’ve been stressed socializing with social people too.
I would have more friends, but I’ve been paranoid with people in the past and pushed them away. There was usually something I wasn’t comfortable with about them and that triggered my paranoia. The friends I have left are easy friendships. I can just pick up where I left off with them. I think I’ll stop wishing I was more social like my sister. I have wanted to be more like her because she has a lot going for her, but I’m the way I am because this is who I
chose to be. Her life isn’t perfect anyway. No one’s is. Why not just be me then.
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Same here. Most of the time when I am around people I go rigid and start talking in a monotone. It’s very boring for most people.
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But if you hang out with someone isnt that socializing?
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I don’t hangout with anyone now but did on Abilify. Though on Abilify my friends kinda don’t have other friends and don’t like to socialize like doing fun activities, travelling, bars or nighclubs to find a partner et They’re all single and don’t want to date. They also all live with their parents. All they want to do is go drink a coffee in Tim Horton or more rarely walk in the shopping center. They don’t even invite their friends or me to their house. My brothers called them losers.
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My presz friends were much more social and some of them were extroverts.
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Idk. Sometimes I can get away with a bit of socializing. As I’ve stated before, I don’t like to be forced into conversations where I feel like I have to keep the conversation going. I much prefer our conversations on the internet where if I decide to respond, fine, but if I don’t have anything to say, or draw a blank, I can move on. I can do social people if I have to, but I don’t like feeling obligated to force a conversation to continue, despite having nothing to say, really.
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I do fine with my current friends but not with the social friends or extroverts I left who had tons of friends, who are too chatty. I used to go to nighclubs with them and they kinda forced me to talk to women there starting a convo with a women then presenting me and leaving me with her, I was frozen and couldn’t talk so I left. Sometimes their friends told them why I don’t talk and that I am weird. A women told me to smile and that I bring bad vibes as I don’t look happy. It pissed me off. Thats why I left all these social friends.
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Met an old girlfriend for lunch a while back.
She asked how many Facebook friends I had…I said “Two”…she said “500”…gee, no wonder our relationship never worked out. lol!
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FB friends don’t really mean more social irl. I used to have 800 but deleted a lot while in psychosis. I just added whoever I met lol mostly ppl at school and work, friends of friends, family, friends of family etc
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