for things that may be mostly out of your control like your illness and other things that dont always work out in life or do you have someone or some thing that you blame for your problems.
i blame myself for everything sometimes too much im not the type of person to blame other people for things even things they have done to me that affected me negatively i always think it is my fault, i think it is good tho because i can feel nice about other people i know someone with bad mental illness in my family and they blame everyone but themself for their situation and never take responsibility for any actions or even feel bad about manipulating and pushing people around to try to get their way and treat everyone like shut even if they are being helped, rare kind of person to be like that so unlucky that they have to be so closely related to me
I don’t mean to be negative or derail the topic, but it’s really hard to read what you’re writing when you don’t use punctuation. It makes the sentences really long and hard to follow
But to be on topic, yes, I often blame myself for things even if they’re out of control. I blame myself for my negatives, for the things I’ve done in life that made things worse, for not being more active, for not doing things normies can do, etc…
I used to blame myself for getting schizophrenia. I thought it was bad karma for having been such an arsehole when I was younger. Even though I’ve most likely always had schizophrenia.
sorry i kinda rushed when making this post. your not the first person to have said that but i often forget to punctuate when typing. maybe i’ve been out of school too long lol
To blame is to look for an answer and maybe a solution? If only this person…If only this event… If only I… But it’s futile and doesn’t solve anything.
Having said that, I think facing your past and what contributed to who you are now is helpful, only to look at it all as honestly and constructively as possible.
I was born “damaged”, and then life events and people contributed to my disfunction. I wish I could have handled things differently, but I couldn’t. So I take that information and use what I can to move forward.
Well you asked two things. I don’t blame myself for things out of my control like my illness. I do blame myself for the problems I cause for myself (usually). But sometimes it actually is someone else’s fault.
Sometimes I blame myself for other people’s illnesses and disabilities. On more than one occasion I had to refrain myself from actually apologising to them.
I don’t blame anyone for what I have . I do blame those who could have helped, but who thought character assassination was a better approach to take .
When I was in the army I blamed the army for not giving me what I wanted when I enlisted, but that was my fault. I blame the army a little bit for making alcohol so cheap and readily available. I periodically apply for a military disability pension because the army made me an alcoholic, but I’m not serious when I do that.
There is always the question whats wrong with me? I ask what’s wrong with my environment that i got that sick? The environment is not always right as we got climatechange, injust governments, wars etc… We get mixed messages from religious figures and misinterpretation. These things drive everyone insane plus disfunctional families. No i don’t blame anybody i adapt to our society and have peace of mind and a balance in my emotions. Personally i come to an agreement with nature where its a win win. Nature is really that fair, even when we destroy the planet with pollution or something else to our greedy pursuit of happiness. We are not getting away with it. There is some sort of punishment what is a blessing for one is a curse for the other in our diverse universe.
