I really want to be in a romantic relationship, but it is starting to look like it won’t happen. I’m too shy to talk to girls and I’m currently living with my mom which is embarrassing. I just don’t think it will ever happen.
Maybe not the first thing I would bring up to a woman but I rent in parents house and everybody loves me…ok maybe not, but some people like me…well…I have one friend that tolerates me anyway.
lol. I’m just messing around. You look pretty young. If this is something you really want , you have plenty of time to change your circumstances and improve yourself. Just put in the work, man.
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How bad are your negative symptoms? Or do you not have them?
I think you’re in with a great chance of getting into a relationship if your negative symptoms aren’t so bad.
In my opinion, if you have negative symptoms you can unintentionally make someone feel unloved, so they won’t stick around.
I’m 31, that is getting too old for a relationship. I want children too, but if I get too old that’s a bad idea. I don’t want to die when my kids are too young.
I don’t take my delusions out on others. I tend to talk to people about it for comfort, but a woman may find that bad.
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Bah…a big fat hogwash to that.
31 is not very old. As far as kids go, people have kids later in life these days. Just continuously try to put yourself out there. If you dont try, you will not succeed. I’m not some great relationship guru, but this is all common sense stuff.
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Thanks, you made me feel a bit better. 
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I feel the same way most of the time. I’m 28 and wishing I had a girlfriend. I know wishing for things doesnt work, I need to put the work in.
Maybe i’ll find love one day, but for now I stay a lonely man.
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31 is super young.
Don’t worry so much.
You either, @TheCanuk, you’re also wicked young.
Living with your parents isn’t the most unattractive thing in the world.
I’ve dated lots of guys that lived in their parents basement or whatever.
I’ve even had to live with my mother in law as an adult.
(I’m sure the older members remember the endless complaints)
The problem is you shoot yourself down and bring that defeated energy to the scene.
You can’t do that.
You have to be confident even if you’re not.
Fake it until you make it.
Works 100%.
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You’re 100% correct. I’m still working on the confidence.
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Have you tried doing self affirmations?
It really feels stupid,
But super works.
You need to tell yourself you are confident, attractive and worthy of a loving relationship.
You are a really cute guy, and I think a woman would be lucky to date you,
You have to believe that too.
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@Charles_Foster - You always have good advice on here. I really appreciate it! You should be a life coach.
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I think another important thing to consider is not to let a failure or 2 get you down. If you continue to push, eventually you will succeed. It’s just like anything in life.
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Haha!
Thanks, @TheCanuk.
And I think @Bowens has another great point.
Failure and rejection are part of the process.
You keep trying, you’ll find someone.
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I am 32. I had an e-relationship online a couple years ago. We texted all day every day. I will not be going that route again. Other than that, I haven’t really had a solid relationship my entire life.
I’m honestly not too worried about it. I will just keep doing my own thing and work on myself. If something happens, it happens. I’ve realized that I put “having a gf” on a pedestal most of my life. Better to just take things in stride.
Thanks everyone! You raised my confidence and I’m not just saying that!
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It’s not for me anymore. I enjoy my independence myself. There are some appealing aspects to it, but at this stage the negatives outweigh the positives for me. Not to derail this thread or anything. It’s not always all its cracked up to be.
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I’m glad that you are feeling better about it @PhotoGuy . You can succeed if you really want to and keep trying.
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My Mom’s best friend had her first ever boyfriend after 50. They ended up getting married. She lived with her mom, and brought her mom to live with them until her mom passed away. It’s definitely not too late.
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Someone I know got married in her late 50s I think. She was definitely in her 50s. They are very happy and she’s now been married for 13 years. They are retired together.
People have kids in their 40s. I really would not be at all defeated about this.
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