Nobody here has anything in common with me or even same diagnosis or problems i have. It feels like none of you can relate to me either?
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I’m sorry to hear that .
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Different lives, different countries, different experiences
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Hi @Ducky sorry your feeling that way. I hope you feel better soon. I always appreciate your replies.
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I have the same problems you do, just to a lesser degree. I don’t like going out and I don’t have any friends either and I don’t like relating to a lot of people at once. But I don’t have a wife or family so I need to go out whether I like it or not. You probably have more in common with people then you think.
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Thanks @77nick77 it would be nice thou if i had more in common with people here. Just would be nice if someone understood me like on multiple levels if that makes sense. Im spending lots of time alone, watch the odd tv show but hubby is unwell bad chest so feel even more alone now and hes quit smoking 4 days ago. Yep im feeling alone and my family are busy. Only hubby really to talk to
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Actually, the one big thing many of us have in common here is not having enough in common. Ironic, but true. Perhaps there’s some comfort in being in a box with a bunch of other puzzle pieces that don’t fit elsewhere, even if we don’t fit with each other?
(((hugs)))
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Thanks smiles 
I have not ever questioned if you fit here, btw. I’m surprised you are.
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I think i fit here , loneliness is shadowing my senses i think. I feel i know a lot of you here quite well even thou its online
Thanks for your support!
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when i was symptomatic people could relate, i don’t hear much talk about symptoms these days, its a bit like my clubhouse when we all know but we act as if its not there, i dont want it to be a problem, so why highlight it, some do get really good support here though, i just think its great to not focus on it…focus on recovery (improving)
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Yep like the elephant in the room lol. Focusing on wellbeing and coping methods is good, sometimes people just need to vent though
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i think its like a mutual understanding that we all share as we all have mental ill health and we know we can relate to some degree but we don’t want to advertise it unlessits completely appropriate sort of thing
I think people would rather talk about something nice but yeah be there when people having a bad day, in the early days i had more bad days but things change, i hope people have more good days bc i think talking about that gives people hope & encouragement.
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@Ducky , do you have hobbies?
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Yes ive a couple of hobbies but hardly ever do them, no motivation. I hardly ever go anywhere either because of my mental state, agorophobia. I watch 1 or 2 things on tv during the week everyday which helps but Im always on verge of depressed and with hubby sick im deflated even more this week than usual. I dont want irl friends because i cant cope with face to face.
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I dont get bored i am just unwell @LilyoftheValley
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I relate to agoraphobia. I didn’t hardly leave my home for 10 years. I’m just now getting out again and working part time.
I also relate regarding hobbies. There are things I used to enjoy but really don’t enjoy them anymore.
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I know those years just fly by the older we get ( both late 40s ) i think your doing well working and being married, having kids etc but i know you struggle at times.
I just take one day at a time and my life is flat and the same everyday but its all i can cope with and theres plenty of times im not coping. My mood swings are more stable but im still paranoid sz and i get ideas in my head all the time
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Dont Worry @Ducky , ive identified with a lot that you post on here. I think i understand you lol.
Trust me, most of us, have that. Its a trust thing - were not always sure, if we are taken seriously.
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Thanks @Naarai thanks for understanding me
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