I made a shawl a few days ago. I spent many many hours on it … like over 24 hours in total. So my cousin comes over and sees me crocheting … so I tell her how easy it is… and I made this shawl 4 times… she says can I have one. so I gave her one. Didn’t even offer to pay for the wool…
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tell her she owes you a steak dinner…
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Well I don’t eat meat but I get what you mean
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just tell her she needs to give you something in return like cash or something because you worked so hard on them and think you want something.
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It’s gone now. and I can’t ask… I know for next time now.
ok well…best that way I guess…sorry.
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I’ve given away expensive things to very brief acquaintances… like a £180 suit and a £440 keyboard.
Not even sure why and it bothered/bothers me.
[I struggle to make friends, am very lonely and lose friends easily so maybe that is partly why?
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I’m saying so maybe you don’t feel alone with this.
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Thank you ivor I’m the same but Im mad at myself I already know her well enough.
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It can be tough when people ask for things.
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Well, looking on the positive side…your cousin must have really liked your crocheted shawls if she asked for one.
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If she had offered I would have said no , but she didn’t even offer
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I mean if it were my cousin I wouldn’t charge as they are family. But maybe you could ask for something from her in exchange for the shawl as a way to pay you back for the time and effort, or teach her how to make one with you. Crochet buddies!
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I don’t consider this cousin my family… She’s always after something when she contacts you
@anon25873142 I also struggle with defending boundaries some times. Just take note and learn from it…
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Hey man… Hyd?
Enough Christmas
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Good man, trying to maintain the good habits in a new place!
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You got it man!!! Stay strong bro 
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