I am romantically interested in this girl

The girl that I am interested in works for my father. She is very attractive. We are the opposites as far as personality goes. She is outspoken, I am shy, she is decicive, I am undecicive.

It was very unfortunate. I got delusional(this was a long time ago) and I came on to her just by asking questions. She told my dad that I wasn’t acting quite right. It was devastating to me because the very girl that I like thought that I was stalking her.

Now the situation is kind of smoothed over. But it is awkward whenever I see her. Is there anyway I can ask her if she wants to hang or something? I think she is scared of me. So I think this is a tough one.

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I’m sorry man, but I think that ship has sailed.

If you’ve already scared her, asking her out is a bad move.

It’ll probably make her work environment uncomfortable.

I would just try to find another lady you are interested in.

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Move on! Don’t mess the next one up!

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I agree completely with @anon54386108

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Let it go @Jake
She works with your father and she got scared of your behavior.

It’s not a good idea to pursue the situation with her further.

It could jeopardize your dads business.

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I agree with everyone else. It does not sound like a good idea to pursue it any further.

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Girls are very sensitive ! It is very easy to creep them out or scare them. But I think it’s a good lesson for you. I’ve had so many romantic and sexual failures it makes you wiser. You have to make women feel comfortable and safe !!

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When I was psychotic I stopped seeing my gf, I didnt want to scare or harm her.

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This seems quite opposite from a woman pursuing a man to the 9th degree.
What kind of man would turn that down?

There’s not really any reason to move on I mean people aren’t replaceable if you like her I would say take your shot. There’s a lot of stigma about schizophrenics and I hope she’s not scared about that or something if so why not try to show her the real you. If she says yes great if she says no it’s okay move on

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@Jake i think that @matthewj has a good point.

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I would just be yourself and ask her. The worst that can happen is she’s not interested. If she’s not threatened by you, she may eventually change her mind.

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Leave it alone. You’ll just make it worse if you bother her. Asking someone out after they already felt uncomfortable is asking for trouble.

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What did your father tell you after you scared her? Listen to your father’s advice.

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Sorry it happened to you though dude. I personally could make a career out of doing/saying stupid things. It’s the story of my life. So I understand.

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it was probably at work, don’t you think?

I still think there is a chance. One reason is because it happened like 10 years ago. Another reason is because I’ve talked her a number times this past year and she seemed ok.

You really have to ask a girl out like soon after you meet her tbh with you! Women lose interest fast .

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I’m a schmuck ! Ha ha what do I know ?! But actually I’ve asked out girls and guys and I rarely get turned down! I’ve been embarrassed I rememeber I was in high school and I asked a girl for her number and she said why and I turned red and said so we could date? And she said I have a boyfriend. That experience made me embarrassed but you get better at it! But don’t ask her out though. Just find another girl seriously ! It’s kind of casual ! Just talk to more people men and women ! Make friends !! If you never talk to women you should not start asking them out! Just talk to people don’t ask anyone out yet. Just talk to everyone and work on your social skills!

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My suggestion is to get out more, expand your world from the microcosm that only your dad stepmom and this girl occupy and try to forget about this girl.

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