Its almost like my grandmother deliberately tries putting me down … and I feel i do it too, it clearly is unhealthy …
Today she says I used to be mean to my dad like I am to her…
Yes i was a terrible daughter to him and I wish i didn’t say the things I did… i can’t change it .
Don’t listen to her. She sounds like a nasty, mean old lady
I cant do much but I help mum the best I can to doing the paper work and stopping etc but its not enough its never enough … i am obviously useless… but it pains me when the cousins come over and all she has is nice things to say
Ish for the 3 1/2 years I’ve known you I’ve never heard you say a mean thing to anyone. You’ve always been kindhearted and supportive. It sounds like you are standing up for yourself to your grandmother’s verbal abuse and she is trying to manipulate you by using the memory of your dead father. Don’t let her do that to you. Don’t let her make you doubt that you a kind and loving person.
im flawed everyone is and I’ve said mean things but I just feel like I’m not doing enough with her…
I have days when I’m nice to her but It results in a comment that riles me up to no end…
I have tried to tell the psychiatrists to get treatmrnt for this irritability which I have only around her 99 percent of the time
All she ever complains is how her daughter in laws and sons kicked her out… im actually not surprised
I’m not, either. Sounds like she should be in a home
She never wants to go in a home … she says mum is happy to look after her … i often resist when she asks me to do things because I’m gonna be insulted regardless…
mum has been to less than 10 holidays in the 35 years she’s been with her … i really wish she’d at least try to make things easier
I agree with @Leaf. You don’t treat people badly at all. Your grandma is just a mean old lady. My grandma was mean too. I separated myself emotionally from her and I learned to ignore her and just write all her comments off because she was just a miserable, mean woman.
Why blame everything on other people when you can just pretend said people don’t exist and move on with your life?
I mean, in reference to your grandmother or people who do that in general.
I would like to say I hate my step dad, but that would imply that I’m devoting energy to thinking about him. To be honest, he’s not even on my radar anymore. It’s like he was never around. If I spent every day complaining about him, it’d be like I never left Virginia in a sense.
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