My brother’s girlfriend had a spontaneous abortion this morning. I am not crying for them but for myself. I don’t believe I will ever have a child
You’re emotions are sensible. Don’t be too hard on yourself. I would suggest trying to get out of your own head and be there for you’re family members in their time of need. We are not our thoughts, we are our actions, is something I learned a long the way and never forgot.
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Can you adopt a child? Just a thought
not sure, and Dollar_menu is right - my emotions are unstable…maybe one day
You’re not a bad person you are human x
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Here in Spain a person with schizophrenia is not allowed to adopt.
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wow, this is very interesting, why?
why you dont believe to have a child
may be your a girl, most of the girls wants a child
for me, because of me, i am not sure that i want a child
i cant give to the child nothing, not sure
people nowadays makes children, just because it is a need or whatever
the planet is full of people and most of theese children will not get a good education
and example from parents
thats why i am not sure to make somebody live hard to living
of course i will be happy to have a child, but still i am not sure
For some the emotions of such an event just never come to you.
My partner and I know we will never have children. It hurts her a lot. She’s always wanted babies. She knows because of me she can never adopt
confusing emotional reactions to terrible news are very normal. You can’t help it. Most people don’t talk about these emotions, because talking about them can be harmful if it’s done wrong.
For example, after my dad died, my mom told me she wished she had spent less time being a parent and done more things just the two of them. That is a perfectly normal emotion to feel, but she should have told it to a therapist or close friend, not her child.
Having these feelings is fine, and talking about them is fine. Just maybe avoid talking about them with your brother’s girlfriend. She is focused on her own grief right now.
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Where do you live in Spain? Are you Castellana?
Because of stigma. They think we are dangerous, they think a person with schizophrenia can’t be a good mother or father, etc.
It’s impossible not to think of yourself at all times. Every time I see a teenager that is surrounded by friends I pity myself because I didn’t have a lot of friends when I was a teenager. It’s just a neuron firing in my brain that was triggered by something that reminded me of being a teenager. It says nothing of a person morally when they think of themselves when they observe others.
If you weren’t just not crying but literally had no thought of their sorrow whatsoever, you’re probably just self-absorbed which it’s easy to be that way when you are heavily depressed… I know from experience.
I have the same feelings, vangogh… Its not easy to be us, don’t be hard on yourself. My time is running out too for having children. Plus, from what I know, we don’t have the right to adopt kids here in Bulgaria, cause mentally ill… But maybe youll get pregnant one day. idk… Just don’t blame yourself, I do the same thing.
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I am also from Bulgaria…I didn’t know we are not allowed to adopt 
I was thinking of freezing my eggs but it’s too expensive
I am not sure, but I think we are not allowed yeap…
But no matter, I wanted, like you, my own kids 
. And even my mother says I shouldn’t make kids. its easy for them, yeah…
Ive thought of feezing my eggs too, I know, I know. Me too I often feel like a bad person. But all my ill friends have thoughts like this. Even a normie girl would go mad if she cant have children, so you are not alone vangogh.
Theres life without kids too I think, but I was already dumped cause too ill for having kids. whatever. If you want it badly, you can try something one day. Me, I start to get old - 36 years and i hate going to gynecologists even. Too much paranoia for me etc etc.
And still, don’t lose hope on finding somebody 
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You got dumped because of your SZ? This is so cruel!
Well, vangogh, I don’t know how is your family, but mine tends to think that ill never have a boyfriend. So I carry this burden alone in a way. Plus me, now, I don’t want a boyfriend. I cant even sit on a coffee outside because of my paranoia. No one will want me like this. You are active I suppose, no? Me, not… Plus, ive changed physically. I don’t look fine anymore. whatever. I’ll continue struggling.
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