You are right aku…
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Yes @EDM_Stan, I am suffering from withdrawal symptom now. If anybody strike me, I want to go off that field. How I will over come. I am office attached now and suffering from outer income.
Withdrawal from what?
Withdrawal from the work.
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Aku is joking he meant social withdrawl…!!!
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No @far_cry0, I am serious. I am socially well. But no works. I am sitting in office from two months. It is giving me tension. Actually my boss ordered one of my site to other engineer of 20 million rs. So I totally withdrawal my all sites.
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I think you should stick to your work Aku… whether you are sitting without work or not doesn’t matter… just go because your family will be in good position if you work…
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I don’t know, it should be a natural thing for normal people.
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I agree on this with you
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Yes @EDM_Stan, I just went to a builder of my town for works. He promised me to give works in next week. I will never compromise. He well know my illness as well as my govt service.
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All the best Aku.
Good question.
Honestly I could have written the first half of your post. Hardly anyone knows of my illness. I’m pretty private and don’t want to talk about it to people who don’t understand or just don’t want to understand.
I think personally I do best in conversations that are about mundane life things. Food, day plans, achievements and goals. My brain cannot process constant talking where there is no pause, loud talking, and most eye contact and I know I come off to people like something is going on with me. So I just avoid most social situations. When I’m manic I could talk to anyone. I’ll invite strangers to sit with me at a restaurant. And chat up a storm. Maybe manic me has the answers about socializing haha I’ll have to come back to this question in the future.
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The way I socialize is I encourage others to do the talking. I don’t reveal anything about myself that way. That’s the way I deal with people off line. I learned this style of communication in nursing school.
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I don’t socialize either and no one forces me to. My experience taught me that hanging out with friends lowers my QOL, so I make a point of not having any. I know my limits.
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Socialisation is so difficult. Its not enjoyable like it used to be. I just think and feel too much and get cobfused and then end up heartbroken or feeling ostrascized. Its really awful to be honest. I just feel i dont know these unwritten rules, laws of socialising, ive missed some skills. Last 5 years its actually felt dangerous and ive been terrified. 
i used to really enjoy ppl and their company 
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Same feeling here. When I was manic I just used to go to my family friends house unannounced just to start a conversation but right now I just stay in my cave… I guess its part of the illness.
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But then if you dont reveal about yourself how are they going to know you fully… thats why I avoid conversations.
Just my opinion.
I feel the same but if it wasnt for sz I’d be talking to my friends like its normal.
Currently if I go out and talk to people they would ask a million questions … so I avoid it.
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Same feeling with me as well.
Most socializing is listening! You listen for cues and respond. You add your stuff in between. I know it sounds strange but it really is about listening. If people feel like they are being listened to they’ll be friendly. It also improves your game and you learn from that!
It really is about practice. You need to have avenues to socialize and that helps. Practice makes perfect as the old saying goes. Yeah you might get shot down…or you may do really well. You can’t do either if your not out there!
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