My new roommates had mostly girls over all day today in the common room and I was just in my room pretending I didn’t exist and hoping they didn’t knock on my door. They were laughing and having a good time and I was just wondering why I can’t have a good time socializing naturally. When I had to go out to get groceries I said hi to them and had some small talk but I feel I was extremely awkward and they were probably like “man that guy was weird” after I left. I was wondering why others seem like they can socialize so easily and for me it’s poverty of speech and awkwardly sitting there.
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For some people its effortless socializing but for others particular those with schizophrenia its awkward and difficult. Just is how it is.
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I wish I knew the answer and could just flip on a switch and be more social. Probably the main reason for me is just I have a depressed mind or sza mind a lot of the time. I’ve never been consistantly social though. For some, it might be a lifelong issue.
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Its hard when you have poverty of speech and paranoia all the time. Im constantly looking around at other people out of the corner of my eye wondering if theyre judging me or plotting against me somehow. Its fuking exhausting and leaves little brainpower for conversation.
Plus Im just a weird dude lol
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Personally, I find that everytime I socialize long term with someone, I end up blaming that someone for a schizophrenia type problem. Like every single time, the friendship ends with me having some irrational problem with them.
So to me, I think schizophrenia socializing problem is more to do with us hating\being suspicious of the people we try socialize with than us having a social problem. Besides, Imagine a deer trying to make friends with a crocodile? we’re the deer, people are the crocodile; coz we always saying this or that is from them.
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whats unique about me, since the day I got schizophrenia, I never really left my old friends, maybe I stopped hanging out with a few of them, but I never told anyone of them about my schizophrenia for like 1 year. But I win the lottery today, I wouldnt invite a single one of them to enjoy it with me… coz, dude, this schizophrenia can fool a mind like it’s in a walking dream… like I have mental list of this one said this, that one did that… and it’s all from schizophrenia, and my mind understands its schizophrenia, but my ego doesnt know the word schizophrenia, to it , its all real. And that’s probably why we usually arent natural around people ~ we secretly think they our enemies\persecutors like @zwolfgang said
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Absolutely man. Thats what Im trying to get across. When you feel like everyones out to get you of course you wont act natural. But noone gets that so I just come off as a freak, especially to people I dont know. Im sure people here can relate though
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And you know what. Everyone that chats on this forum doesn’t acknowledge it, but they actually socializing, and in a natural way… its just noone ever wants to call the other guy a ‘friend’. And guess what? we only talk freely here coz we eint talking to the crocodile tryin to eat us 
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I agree somewhat. We talk naturally here because people here get it, but Ive also met many people here I would consider friends, almost as much as people I know irl.
Maybe more so in some ways because I can talk to them about things that I cant with my real life friends
yet, we never acknowledge or call them friend… I think its coz we dont see them, but if we did, would def be friend
Yes its really embarrassing to take medication to fit in. I lost all morals, confidence, self-esteem.
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have you ever seen a schizophrenic couple? like both male and female are schizophrenic? 
probably not a pretty sight, but would probably be quite something. Seen a few of them selfie post, honestly wouldnt complain about a few of erm being my girlfriend, but its wierd to imagine 2 schizophrenics next to each other…almost scary, cant say why, but feels scary 
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I find that I simply just have a problem with small talk and conversations I find pointless or meaningless. If it’s about politics or religion or culture I can talk all day long. Also when I’m working I’m also very outgoing if my type of work needs it. It’s just because I like to be the best at everything I do. Otherwise I’m an introvert. People often say that to make more friends or socalize more to just start a conversation up at a grocery store with a stranger but I can’t see myself doing that. I mean how much since would it make if I just walk up to someone and start talking politics. Lol I don’t have much to talk about. My interests are different from many others. I can also talk about parenting now but I have a hard time meeting other moms. I’m awkward until I find a subject I can relate to. I often find myself tuning people out and then daydreaming while they talk to me. Talk about awkward. I also have a problem with eye contact lately.
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At least the sz couple have something in common and help each other. My x-wife had sz and medication took us apart.She was on and off lots of times without letting me know… I took mine regular and a doctor gave green light to reduce them to a homeopathic dose. All was good and she played with her medication again, anyways we got divorced.
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so, I decided it’s time to head back to university, but the lunch hall is really scarying me, coz like yourself, I also feel like I have no interest whatsoever in talking to people\making friends, but I also dont want to be recognized as that dude who always eating alone with noone around him.
@anon53623539 what? that’s too real… here I was thinking it was a dream…
@Cynnelise new account status, cant post more replies… problem is, I have a problem, so to fix that problem, I’ve told myself Ii wont make or try to make a single friend at university, just going their to study
yeah, I’ll leave the friend making for when I can invite them to my yatch to chill in my jacuuzi… after I win the lottery ofc 
They’ll probably be all naked models, and I’ll be the rich cahuno… it’s ok to be crazy when you the rich cahuno, nobody minds.
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Think about your interest and try to join clubs that are related. Maybe that will help you make friends.
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Makes since. I’m about to take some classes from home and will be very focused. But in order to have a truly fulfilling life we need to include other people in our lives.
Some people would find it refreshing to have friends that they could hang out with and wouldn’t have to have pointless conversations with. Conversing is only a part of socializing.
Just be upfront.“I don’t talk much, but I think it would be cool to catch a movie or go to a sporting event or art show. Wanna connect?”
Let the conversation flow naturally and come at the appropriate time. Try just inviting people out.
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I get pretty manic and depressed when I think about how little I talk to people. I mean I do talk to people online these days, but I never seem to give myself much credit.
I guess I have some clue what I should talk about, maybe simple life things. Crazy expectations of myself get in the way of the reality of my brain and abilities. And, feeling like I’m a huge loser with a strange life and delusions and dissacoiciation doesn’t help much.
i have probs socially…ia ttend a social anxiety group which helps a bit…I have to get used to the newnormal which is me now
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