How to handle Sexual feelings

What is the best place to learn how to handle the sexual feelings the healthy way?

I am struggling to manage the thoughts and fantasies about it… The libido seems to be over the roof and I have hyper sexuality I guess one of the Bipolar symptoms…

Can I channelise it elsewhere without causing drought to the sexual feelings?

BTW I am married and not able to find it satisfying my urges…

Any of your advice or your experience will help me…

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maybe exercise? i would say masturbation but i dont have hypersexuality, or pretty much any sexual feelings and idk if it would work for u or if u would have to do it like 20 times a day or something. the only other thing i can think of is exercise, or some kind of distraction

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The thoughts normally go away after masturbation, for me.

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yea I joined gym recently and I got DOMS and taking rest now, will start soon.

Also, I do masturbate once in a while sometimes more sometimes less…

I feel need to have some friends who are women so that I don’t feel lonely… when I have lot of free time or nothing better to do…

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I use oven mitts so my hands don’t get burned.

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Practice by talking about it to family members They’d be the closest to being able to understand and be able to give you a listen.

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If you are married I would think your partner would be a issue. Does your partner know your issues? How can you keep a healthy relationship with this issue? I have fantasies but porn satisfies them for me. I am a 54 year old male and only had couch dances for my sexual encounters with another person. I become suicidal without a libido. I can not imagine a satisfying life without a sexual outlet for me. I still live with my parents and they would not allow me to be sexually active without a marriage. They are extremely religious and moral. Exercise actually increases my libido. I also am paranoid about pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. I also am paranoid about relationship issues that having sex with others can cause. Also I have shame about my porn and masturbation and sexual fantasies. It is like I am in a paradox with my current situation. You would think healthy sex would be safe sex with no pregnancy’s or STD’s and no relationship issues.

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I have the same problem. Its not an easy one to solve. Honestly just try to masturbate quickly and get on to doing something else.
Ive wasted so much time due to hypersexuality its pretty annoying.

My wife doesnt care if I watch porn or whatever we discussed all that. Basically i didnt want to use her as my outlet constantly as her drive is not insane like mine can be when hypersexuality pops up.

When i was single i used to do a lot of hookups and go to parlours but those days are done.

So if possible get it done quick then go do something productive. And you might have to get it done quick several times if its pretty bad lol.

Wish i had a better answer.

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Tongs here.

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If its hypersexuality that thought goes away for about 20 minutes.

I think after you do it you gotta get into some productive activity, creative or some exercise.

I think recklessness can be accompanied with it as well.

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Not necessarily. I was hypersexual recently, and though the sexual thoughts went away for 20 minutes after masturbation, they came back again after that.

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Thats what I said. With hypersexuality the thoughts return in roughly 20 mins regardless if you masturbate.

So thats why you gotta switch your focus right after to a productive or creative activity that isnt sex related.

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I also use them to keep my hands warm

:sweat_smile:

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