For various reasons, (paranoia, winter in Nebraska and hibernation, getting older, contentedness), I have been choosing to isolate myself for the majority of the time in my apartment, in my assisted living center, where I live. I am quite happy doing this because I have plenty to occupy me here. I can keep busy all 18 hours of my waking day, if I want to, in solitude. I have wanted to be a religious or secular hermit for a long time now and it seems that I am carrying out my dream in a way. God has arranged it to be so. How can I have turned out to be so blessed? God is truly good to those who love him.
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Hmmm. Iāve accepted and become more content with the fact that Iām a hermit. Iād like to ānaturallyā want to socialise though.
Not me. I donāt care if I donāt want to socialize.
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I just cannot stop the work-drive. Cost of living is too high here and too many scams have bitten me lately - vehicle, employment, court, 2 surgeriesā¦Also going to have my Medicare end in a couple months and need to be working to get working disabled medicaid offered by my state. This is worth finding out about if your state offers medicaid to working disabled, if the state has not extended medicaid to all low income who pay a monthly bill for this health insurance btw.
Local area is running such a bad discrimination problem, the colleges, business networking and causes are messing up some people who try to socialize. Iāve been used up so bad, they didnāt even leave me able to work after 2 blackball humiliation statements in one day - different people and in different places and I was threatened about returning to work. So, I work online to get away from even worse sex harassment scams that have started around here and can deal with the insomnia easier. After seeing some newer people socializing who were getting bullied and people tried to scare them in order to use them, is better to just stay homeā¦Meetup.com is great social club organization tool in healthy cities but my hometown is sicko so only harms with this tool.
Some of the married friends are just too busy to bother socializing. Others joined the wrong kind of religions who have been driving the discrimination thing here btw (usually victim is just unwilling mistresses, sex abuse victim or ex-wive of wealthy), and you just have to consider these former friendlies a nut and leave it. Is really bad if these kind go to work with you as they will do anything told no matter how unethical, screwing up customers/coworkers/equipment. I work in offices and being around someone who is cursing out strangers and insulting them while out in public could get me harmed or fired, so I had to let these go. I donāt have any family who act like this but I know some people who just quit socializing in public with loudly stupid family and just keep it to the house so they donāt get fired and go homeless. I wouldnāt even talk to the nutty ones about their behavior because sometimes more of the wrong thing from the wrong churches comes to bother you too.
I donāt check out churches much any longer either after seeing these dirty business network churches and getting in trouble there myself. Worked at another mainstream church that was hiding lots and scaring away more people who checked it out. I probably wonāt look at another church in my life as next pastor change can bring in more problems. Most of the pastors are changed out every 7 years in mainstream churches but not necessarily a good thing sometimes as brings new āwrong influenceā into town. I bought a fixer-upper in a smaller town and working to leave here anyway as situation in hometown is just too screwed up and violent, horrible employment and worse cops.
I donāt go anywhere much anymore myself as car has been hit multiple times in last couple months for talking back to thought broadcasters. Also had other customers in the store bitch at me laughing about my car getting messed up and these customers mentioned it specifically.
I got PTSD after working with a sex abuse victim who was introducing around her abuser to get him new people. Mental care undid me. Insomnia and psychosis have not stopped, medicated or not, in 12 years now. Other coworkers has similar fates and similar social problems around here.
I donāt call it isolation though my pdocs doā¦I call it my own slice of heaven.
I donāt hate people, I just like them at a distance.
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I donāt hate people. I love them. They hate me.
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Iām so much of a hermit that you can call me Kermit
I love solitude!
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Right now I wouldnāt mind being a hermit. My roommate has been really negative lately. In a sour mood and condescending over a lot of things. Normally we get along so well but sheās been driving me nuts lately.
Iād move out if I were you.
Weāre only still living together this semester and then weāre done.
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I have been alone 99% of the time for 30 or so years, always had someone to chat to or text, thats gone for now, makes it really hard when you get older knowing there will be no on there for me if I become disable and that day is coming sooner than later.
If I would give any advise on the subject, make a couple of friends, even if its a part time sort of thing cause the end result of not having any is not a pretty one.
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Yeah i like to be alone . I enjoy music. I wish i had a job though so i could afford a motorbike. Its ultimate isolation cruising on a bike listening to music!
Iām never completely isolated.
I live with my aging parents (I help take care of them)
I live with my parents, but I donāt really socialize outside. I just donāt trust peopleā¦and I have that nagging feeling that theyāre laughing at me (from being verbally bullied as a kid and of course my paranoid delusions because of my illness).
I do socialize with family, like if we have a family reunion or get-together I will go as long as my parents come. Iām even quiet in those places as well, just donāt know whatās safe to talk about any more. Everyoneās so opinionated about politics, we all have different religions. I canāt really judge people on their health because I know mine isnāt good. I donāt have a job and am not speaking with oldest and best friend at the moment so I just donāt have much to say to people. So I prefer to sit at home with my kitty and my parents.
I feel safe here, except when curtains are open, I think people are looking inside and laughing at me, even though I donāt physically see anyone out there, or notice people are walking by not even paying attention to me. Iām also afraid to sit near the window if I do hear any arguing outside because of all the reports of people being āin the cross-fireā or people just sitting at home and some reason a bullet winds up through their walls killing them. Itās happened in the city a few times (Iāve heard on the news). So naturally whenever people get really loud outside my apartment I get a little nervous.
I have a hard time believing youād be alone unless by your own choice?
You have a great sense of humor, your smart, and bringing home all that nifty shiny stuff to sort throughā¦sounds perfect to me(one of my favorite things-seriously) I couldnāt be the only one to think so.
Now where are all of those friends your hiding?
I am living with my parents so I see them every day but aside from that, I donāt feel much need for a lot of human interaction. I love people, I just donāt feel the need to socialize. I find contentment in God and find He understands me more than most people ever will.
I am usually a bit of a hermit. Outside is overrated.
Couldnāt have said it better myself!
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There are none, and the couple I had are not wanting to talk atm, one is traveling the world another is in depression and is not talking to me
I am naturally a people person. Very much so! but people can be mean. A lifetime of abuse has driven me into hermit-hood. I have one good friend, my 2 kids, my Dad and my brother in my life and thatās it. I agree with @loveaguilarg; I love people! They just hate me.