I am very scared of doing any work. I am afraid that I cannot maintain punctuality at a job. My anxiety levels have increased heavily. I am afraid of giving commitments to people at work.
My parents are not happy that I am not working.
How to know if I am fit to work or not?
Any job that I think of doing … I quickly get de motivated and afraid and rule out that possibility.
How do you hold onto a job? What is the secret?
Volunteer work
You start with volunteer work as many hours you like
This will build your confidence, learn new skills, put on your CV and get you a reference
In time you will know when you can move to paid work
I started with part-time volunteer work and eventually was doing it full-time. Then I started part-time work and eventually was doing that full-time. Now I do full-time work, run a part-time business, and also do a LOT of volunteer work. It’s possible!
Just give it a try @EDM_Stan…!! I think u can do it… i have tried many times i fail miserably. .
Hi @EDM_Stan, good evening. How are you? Me also want to change the job but because of family responsibility I am unable.
Very good @anon82948922. I am in a full time job. Now I can think for a part time self business.
I also started with volunteer work. Volunteering is great, because it gets you used to having a consistent schedule and mastering unfamiliar tasks. It also helps with developing interpersonal skills, which are important at any job where you have coworkers or customers.
Also, remember that any new job, even a volunteer job, will feel horrible and impossible for the first couple weeks. When you are still developing your routine and learning new skills, it’s normal to feel exhausted and like everything you do is wrong. But hold on. That feeling goes away. You will eventually master your new skills and your work schedule will start to feel normal and comfortable. Then, working can be fun and make you feel good about yourself.
I’m not fit for a job. Rarely do I even fit into volunteer positions. I have insomnia which is very unpredictable. Sometimes I sleep twelve hours a night, sometimes zero hours a night. I get frequent and severe migraines, also very unpredictable. I’m inappropriate with poor judgement and bad memory due to my MI. I cannot drive and I don’t own a car also due to my MI.
I agree with the others. Volunteering gives you the opportunity to see how much you can do without crazy pressure
Are you happy there?..
I’ve taken some time off at the moment but yes the people are cool but scared of the manager. I think I’ll be doing more tasks with time right now I’m a ‘dummy’. The other volunteering when I start should be really good as long as I am alright with the office atmosphere there.
Awesome, as long as you enjoy what you’re doing you know you’re called to it!
Yes so true
Being on time is under your control (if that’s what you mean by “punctuality”). I’ve worked for many years. My philosophy is that if “I’m healthy and I can learn” than I can be employed.
Just ease into work. Start with volunteering like 10 hours a week or so, then get a part time job that is like 10 hours a week or so to replace the volunteering. Don’t take on more hours then u think u can handle or u might find yourself not turning up.
So after taking all of your advices … I tried out volunteering at an orphanage near my house … I went there and interacted with the kids and talked to the care takers as well.
That was yesterday.
Today I didn’t feel like going there … Because I don’t feel like going out… Have no motivation to get better. I just all the time stay at home and my insomnia is just killing me. I spend most of my time on bed during the day and on the internet during night.
Whenever I go to work all the negative thought keep killing my motivation…
Thoughts like “my life is wasted” “i can’t do anything i am a fool” and various other things.
Bottom line is i am not in tune with life … And the fact that I cannot manage my sleep time and anxiety is not helping either. I am feeling a lot of Drowsiness.
I am afraid to go to work. I just gave up on living a good life.
I am sorry.
I know one lady that volunteered for two years cause they said they didnt have any openings. At the end of two years she asked if there were any possibilities. They said why would we hire you if you’ll do it for free.
Mayb it wasn’t the right volunteering job for u. Mayb there is one out there that u cud find more comfortable or enjoyable.
Ok you can’t volunteer right now but keep it in mind as a future goal
Give it a try, small steps only.
I started temping two days a week for a company after 6 months of not working. Now I have been there for five years and done a few different things in that time.
I am not saying it will be easy, but I can absolutely guarantee that although stress-provoking at times, it’s a really useful distraction from your problems.
At work I probably notice symptoms mainly when I go for my lunchtime walk and when I first start there is an anxiety ‘hurdle’ I have to get over, but when I am fixated on what I am doing it feels like an escape.
I work 4 days a week, and feel pretty burnt out afterwards, but I hate weekends as I am at a loose end as I have no community around me anymore, and I cannot focus on television or gaming anymore so all I do is smoke, surf the net, drink coffee and listen to music. I also notice my symptoms more as I am alone.
I cannot wait for Mondays to come back so I can get a break from myself.
My 4 day week gives me a routine, which is very important. Nothing goes away but at least it falls into the background.