I am often told to join a group especially when it comes to exercise, but I can’t stand being in a group. I feel awkward doing aerobics, yoga, or playing a ball game together with others.
When I was drinking I was often told to join A.A. - a good suggestion and well meant - but for me it would be hellish being in a group and talk about myself and my problems.
I guess I’m a loner in that respect.
We often oversize the problem by thinking about it too much, letting it grow in our head etc.
I’m pretty sure if you went to an AA-style meeting, where everyone is laden with issues, you wouldn’t mind opening up about yours.
True, I really wish to be better at being in groups, and sometimes I envy the American tradition of A.A.
It’s not that common in my country, but I think they exist.
We Scandinavians are a bit introverted and closed when it comes to being open and loud in a community.
I visited your country 17 years ago. Nice memories 
I’m anti social. The only groups I’m part of are hush hush sites on Facebook, and I’m only there for the laughs. Irl, I keep to myself.
Kinda depends on my mood and who I’m with. I usually talk ok in groups but then over analyze afterwards so it takes me a while to recover from that sort of thing. It’s nice to have people who listen though, if you can find them.
The only group I spend time with is my DND group. But lately I got a bit paranoid about them. I’m trying to work on that though
I’m anti social too it seems or withd the right people I’m comfortable with I love socialising.
I’m uncomfortable around most people n avoid them so not part in any group.
I isolated.
Uncomfortable around family too unfortunately because they look down at me suppress me etc
I didn’t think I could handle it when I first joined. Now I’m the grey lookin’ dude who helps newbies get over that hump.
Oh, and photo clubs aren’t bad. Print salons are awesome.
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I’m keen to join one with an art group at meetup. Com
It looks fun. I just hope to find one that is not cleeqy.
I’m glad you’re trying to work through that. It’s a great outlet.
I completely suck at being in a group of people. So overwhelming. I do a lot better one on one with someone.
I have learned a tactic that helps somewhat though.
What you do is only talk to one person in the group amd allow others to listen if they wish. Instead of addressing the entire group and looking around at all of them. Apparently people who do public speaking use this method. They pick a single person in the crowd and talk directly at them, then move on to another, so on and so forth.
But still, i struggle. Im a lot better than i used to be though.
Thanks for the tip @Ozzyskits - i will try that.
I’m practicing being in a group at the place where i volunteer. There are lots of lost possibilities if you are having troubles with being in a group. My country is very much a place with a lot of clubs, associations and unions.
I’ve only been in F2F groups involving others with mental health problems. I’ve never felt confident, good and safe enough to join other groups.
I wish it were like that here.
Everyone is a social animal where I live. I would love it if everyone were introverted and cold. lol.
I’m not big on groups. I get anxious and uncomfortable. I like one to two people. I don’t really know of any group activities in my area. It’s all older people in a country setting. Not many options.
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